Meaningful ways wives can be a blessing to their husbands by serving them

What a difference it makes when a waiter approaches your table with a smile. When they go above and beyond to keep your iced-tea filled, offer extra napkins, and joke around with the kids, it makes you want to leave a bigger tip and fill out a positive comment card. After all, great service is always appreciated.

So why is it that “serving” others sometimes carries a negative connotation? Especially in marriage, why is it that many wives view serving their husbands as outdated or even beneath them?

I may be thought of as old-fashioned, but I believe wives can serve their husbands with both joy and gratitude. I believe they can find satisfaction in serving their spouse, and actually strengthen their marriage in the process.

But before you tune me out, or take offense at what I’m suggesting, please consider these 10 meaningful ways wives can serve their husbands (yes, serve!).

1. Smile Often

“A smile is the best makeup any girl can wear.” ~Marilyn Monroe

When you stop to think of how a timely smile from a stranger can change your day, consider what smiles can do in your marriage. As husbands often carry the burden of trying to make their wives happy and work hard providing for their families, wives can offer genuine smiles of appreciation to help encourage them.

This doesn’t mean we plaster on fake grins and hide our true emotions. Instead, we make deliberate efforts to serve our husbands with outward signs of thankfulness, while addressing the issues with openness and grace.

Perhaps Marilyn Monroe was right when she said “a smile is the best makeup any girl can wear.” After all, a smile is free, timeless, and an instant encouragement to those around us.

A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit. Proverbs 15:13

2. Give What You’d Like to Receive

More than a Kindergarten mantra, “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is both Biblical and beneficial. It’s mentioned in Matthew 7:12 by Jesus Himself: “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”

In serving our husbands well, we can ask ourselves what we would most appreciate and consider giving similar things to our husbands. The thing is, it doesn’t have to be an elaborate endeavor.

Here are a few examples:

  • If you’d like to receive more time to yourself, offer him some personal space and time to rejuvenate.
  • If you’d like to receive more affection, try giving him the affection he needs. (Keep in mind, his need for affection might be more physical in nature).
  • If you’d like to receive his attention, practice giving him your undivided time and attention.

The examples go on and on of how we can serve our husbands by giving them what we’d like to receive. Giving the things we’d like to receive is an intentional way of serving with joy.

“Treat others just as you want to be treated.” Luke 6:31 CEV

3. Be Their Helpmate

The word helpmate is a term not often used in today’s marriages.

For some, it denotes a subservient attitude and causes people to bristle at the thought. However, being a helpmate to our spouses is a Biblical characteristic that’s been assigned to us by our Creator. It’s a beautiful representation of God’s design for marriage, and when implemented properly, can lead to a more intimate, well-balanced union.

Think of the word helpmate in two parts: Helping someone is a good thing. Being a good mate (friend) is a wonderful thing. Put the two roles together and you’ve got a positive way to serve your husband in the best way possible. Our husbands need us to step in and help them. And they need us to be supportive helpmates as God designed us to be.

The Lord God said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

For more about being your husband’s helpmate, check out this post, 10 Ways to be Your Husband’s Number 1 Helper.

4. Think Ahead

I can’t tell you how good it feels to come home to a clean house and a warm meal. The thought of my husband thinking ahead and making things nice for me is always appreciated! Our husbands are equally blessed when we think ahead and make things nice for them.

When my kids were little, I’d set a timer 30 minutes before my husband got home so we could sweep through the house. I never wanted him to dread coming home. And by doing a little planning, I was able to create a peaceful haven for him to enjoy at the end of a long day.

Here are a few specific ways you can think ahead and serve your husband with joy:

  • Pack a few leftovers for his lunch the next day.
  • Fill his sock drawer with clean socks for the week.
  • Fill up his car before his early morning commute.
  • Record the game for him to watch over the weekend.

While it’s easy to get caught up living minute-to-minute, make it a point to think ahead. It won’t take long for your husband to notice your efforts and reciprocate them.

“Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Philippians 2:3-4

5. Ease the Pressure

As you know, life is full of unforeseen pressures and demands. At work, at home, and in our communities, pressures abound, and our husbands sometimes feel overwhelmed by them. One of the best things we can do is try to ease some of the pressures our husbands are facing.

While we cannot make all the trials go away, we can offer regular support and comfort. Consider easing the pressure in your husband’s life by trying a few of the following:

  • Adhere to your budget to relieve financial pressure.
  • Let unimportant things go.
  • Encourage him with Scripture.
  • Have fun together.
  • Be a good listener.
  • Brainstorm to help find solutions to problems.
  • Affirm that he is capable.

Easing the pressure for our husbands will not only help them navigate life’s challenges, it will overflow into our own lives as well.

“Carry each others burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2

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SOURCE: Crosswalk – Jennifer Waddle