Dr. David B. Hawkins on How to Overcome a Bad Mood

I recently slipped into a bad mood disorder. Now, to be clear, I didn’t technically have a diagnosable Mood Disorder. Rather, I had a disturbance of mood. Let me explain.

My wife Christie and I had just had a tiff. Nothing serious, but I got my feelings hurt. There were several minutes of tension between us, which I hate. I mulled on how I had been wronged, how I was the innocent party and did not deserve her response to me (distortions, of course).

As I rehearsed how I had been wronged, I withdrew into silence, pulling away from her. I twisted circumstances, failing to consider what she had intended, what she was feeling and what prompted her to say what she said.

No matter. I withdrew into “pouty silence,” becoming more deeply entrenched in my mood disturbance. Of course she could feel my distance. I’m sure my distancing was disconcerting to her as she did not intentionally try to hurt my feelings. My silence, however, created more confusion to our situation.

I must be very careful in these situations not to let a bit of conflict—a “molehill” in the great scope of things—turn into an emotional “mountain.” If you’re like me, however, it’s easy to let feeling wronged turn into the proverbial mountain. A slight here, and twisted bit of truth there, rehearsing the distorted facts, and the small problem worsens.

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SOURCE: Crosswalk, Dr. David B. Hawkins