Who Has the Reins?
Franklin quoted the next verse.
“The passage goes on to say, ‘Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.’”
“I say Amen to that,” Bianca said. “I believe I told you this already, but at the last AACC Conference that we attended, I was conversing with this elderly lady. She’s retired now after having put in fifty-five years in her career as a counselor. She told me one piece of advice she always gives to men who are planning on getting married or to men who are already married is, you take and keep and hold on tight to the leadership reins in your marriage from day one. Never let your wife get a hold of it because once she gets a hold of it you will never get it back. And if you try to get it back, you’d better be in for the fight of your life. Then she said, the funny thing about it is once the wife gets control of the leadership reins she doesn’t even know what to do with it; but she’s going to hang on to it. As long as she hangs on to the reins the marriage is going to run a muck. Things are not going to go smoothly at all.”
“I totally agree with that. As long as the wife takes over the husband’s role things are not going to go smoothly; there is going to be nothing but unrest and added stress,” Franklin said.
“Or vice-versa,” Bianca said. “If the husband, for whatever reason, takes over the wife’s role or the mother’s role there is going to be added stress in the marriage and on the family.”
“There is an unspoken but seemingly widely accepted belief that wives are free to act just any way they want, even in an out-of-control manner, and be foot-loose and fancy-free because their husbands are responsible and ought to be blamed for everything that goes wrong in the marriage. After all, he is the head. That’s the only time some wives want to acknowledge him as the head – when something goes wrong,” Franklin said with a chuckle. “But that belief is far from the truth. It’s just another deception of the devil. The Bible says everyone must appear before the judgment seat and give a report of their behavior while living here on earth whether it be good or bad.”
“That’s only fair,” Bianca said. “Why should you have to be judged for my bad behavior? Or why should I have to be judged for your bad behavior? It’s time out for that belief.”
“I think if both spouses will remember this verse in Hebrews chapter thirteen, the seventeenth verse, they will snap into their roles with alacrity,” Franklin said. “It says, ‘Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.’”
“How true,” Bianca said.
“No husband wants to have to stand before God and give an evil report about his wife’s behavior. I know I don’t want to, so my dear wife, please continue to act right,” Franklin said with a smile.
Bianca giggled. “You don’t have to worry about that. I love God, but I think I equally fear Him chastising me if I don’t obey His Word that tells me to obey you. Plus, I don’t want Him to begin taking away the blessings He has already given to us.”