Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage
Ann and her husband and their lawyers met with Franklin and Bianca in Franklin’s office two days before they were to finalize the divorce.
“I’ll open up this meeting by reading one verse from the Bible. It’s found in St. Luke chapter sixteen and verse eighteen. It reads:
‘Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.’
After prayer, Franklin got to the heart of the matter.
“Greg, Ann, I know you are both set to finalize your divorce two days from today after being separated for almost two years. As you already know, Ann has been undergoing counseling with my wife, and after some things have been made clearer to her she expressed a desire to call this special meeting. She wanted my wife and I to share with her and Greg what God’s Word says about marriage, divorce, and remarriage in the presence of their lawyers. Greg, I thank you for being willing to come. We won’t discuss what Ann and my wife have been talking about in their counseling sessions as everything is confidential even from you, Greg, being that your wife sought this counseling by herself. But you are more than welcome to join your wife in counseling as a couple. You can let us know your decision after this.”
“Okay,” Greg said.
“You may have heard these words that ‘the marriage bed is undefiled’. Well, those words are from the Bible. And the marriage bed is undefiled until one or both of the married persons commit adultery, that is have sex with or perform intimate acts with someone they are not married to, then he or she has defiled their marriage bed. And God has a problem with that. But He has an even bigger problem when a person lives in adultery,” Franklin said.
“What’s the difference?” Greg asked.
“When you commit adultery, you stay married but you have sex with someone other than your spouse. Now that is wrong—a sin,” Franklin said. “When you live in adultery, it means that you have divorced your spouse and you are married to someone else without viable cause. So, not only are you, the remarried spouse, committing and living in adultery, but the other person you are married to is also living in adultery whether he or she has been married before or not.”
“Hm,” Greg said glancing at Ann.
“What if as in our case where we are only separated and one spouse is in an intimate relationship with another person, where do we stand on that?” Ann asked.
“That spouse is still committing adultery and is currently living in adultery,” Franklin said.
“Suppose we follow through with the divorce and one spouse remains unmarried even though the other may go on and remarry?” Ann asked.
“The Bible does address that, too,” Franklin said. “Bianca, help me out with that please: where Paul says she should remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband.”
“It’s in First Corinthians seven verses ten and eleven,” Bianca said, turning the pages of her Bible. “I’ll read it.”
‘And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband.’”
“Thank you,” Franklin said. “You see here, if a wife, or a husband, for that matter, chooses to walk out of the marriage, he or she must remain unmarried or be reconciled, that is, go back to your former spouse if you want to remain in right standing with God.”
“That is why we try to get husbands and wives to stay together because divorce and remarriage is not a good thing in God’s sight. Remember God is the originator of marriage, so He knows the ramifications stemming from divorce. It says in the Old Testament that God hates putting away; that is, God hates divorce,” Bianca said.