PODCAST: Domestic Violence, Part 4 (God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #72 with Daniel Whyte III)

God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #72

Welcome to God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems podcast. This is podcast #72

My name is Daniel Whyte III, president of Ordained Chaplains USA and Life coach. We don’t have to look far to see that many people in the world are dealing with a variety of problems and are in need of solutions. No matter what problem you are facing — whether it is emotional, psychological or spiritual — Jesus Christ holds the solution that you need. As we walk together in this podcast, we will address a number of topics that exist in the world and present solutions from the Bible that will help you heal and live life more abundantly. Our aim in this podcast is: (1) to introduce you to our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ, the ultimate source of all healing; (2) to provide you with information that will help you to understand the problem; and (3) to help you by providing solutions to your problems.

Our passage from the Word of God today is Colossians 3:19. It reads, “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.”

Allow me to share with you some interesting points on this passage from Matthew Henry’s Commentary:

Husbands must love their wives with tender and faithful affection, as Christ loved the church, and as their own bodies, and even as themselves, with a love peculiar to the nearest relation and the greatest comfort and blessing of life. And they must not be bitter against them, not use them unkindly, with harsh language or severe treatment, but be kind and obliging to them in all things; for the woman was made for the man, neither is the man without the woman, and the man also is by the woman.

Our quote for today is from Theodore Hesburgh. He said, “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.”

The problem we are discussing today is “Domestic Violence” (part 4) from the book, “The Guide to Biblical Counseling” by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Ron Hawkins.

If a couple comes into counseling together and you suspect abuse, speak to each separately to get an accurate understanding of the situation. To avoid putting the victim in danger, simply say that is is your practice to speak to each member of the couple individually.

Rule Outs
1. Do your fights ever get physical? (This is an easier question to answer than one about violence or abuse).
2. Do either of you use alcohol or drugs?
3. Do you feel safe with your spouse? (If you have any questions about the presence of abuse, do not try to address marital issues with the couple together until the issue of safety is thoroughly addressed.)

General Questions
1. Has your spouse ever hurt you physically or tried to physically intimidate you?
2. If yes, when was the last time it happened?
3. How often does the abuse happen?
4. Have you ever tried to get help?
5. What have you done to get help?
6. Has it worked?
7. Does your spouse go through the cycle of tension, battering, and then remorse?
8. Describe what usually happens.
9. Are you afraid for your children’s safety?
10. Do you have a plan for safety if the abuse happens again?

The first issue is safety. Working out a plan of safety with the victim is essential. Sometimes what keeps a victim in the abusive situation is the lack of resources to escape. Be sure you investigate this need.

Estimates indicate more than 1 million women and 371,000 men are stalked by intimate partners each year. Intimate partner violence occurs across all populations, irrespective of social, economic, religious, or cultural groups. However, young women and those below the poverty line are disproportionately affected.

In our next broadcast, we will continue looking at the problem of Domestic Violence.


Now, if you are listening today, and you do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as your Saviour, allow me to show you how.

First, accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”

Third, accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” Also, the Bible states in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”

Now this is bad news, but here’s the good news. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Just believe in your heart that Jesus Christ died for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead by the power of God for you so that you can live eternally with Him. Pray and ask Him to come into your heart today, and He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

If you have other questions about life’s problems for this podcast, please email us coach@ordainedchaplainsusa.org.

Until next time, my friend remember that God has a solution to all of your problems.