We anticipate two of our girls will be getting married in the near future. Due to the uncertainty with COVID and the economic setback in our family business, we are unsure how to proceed. Any advice?
Father of the Brides
Dear Father of the Brides,
These are in fact strange times for those who are planning a wedding. Two of my four sons are married. My experience is that it is a lot easier being on the groom’s side of planning. One had a church wedding and the other eloped. The second told us ahead of time. They came to our house afterward where we surprised them with cake and wedding gifts. Both events were celebrated. One was far less expensive for the bride and groom’s family than the other and both marriages are doing fine.
Money and Weddings
I once read an article that argued the higher the cost and the lower the attendance at a wedding, the less likely the marriage would work out. The inverse was also true, the lower the cost and the higher the number of guests in attendance, the more likely the marriage would last.
I’m a firm believer in planning for a marriage, not just a wedding. Far too many people invest tens of thousands of dollars in weddings with very little thought of future financial stewardship.
My advice: keep it simple with the focus on Christ and the wedding covenant.
In 2019, Trip Savvy reported the average American wedding costs just under $35,000. That’s a WHOLE lot more than Ann and I spent on our wedding! Most couples don’t have that kind of cash, and it’s a lot to ask of parents. Here is a good way to avoid the financial stress of your daughter’s marriage: don’t borrow money for a wedding. Instead, create a reasonable wedding budget and let your children use every dollar saved for their future. If you can afford $5,000 and they can do it for $3,000 then bless them with the $2,000 saved.
Humility and beauty under the umbrella of faith will testify of God’s goodness on their wedding day. The example you set could bless many. My observation is that the simpler the plans, the less stress is typically involved. The Bible says, “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.” (Proverbs 12:25 ESV)
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SOURCE: Christian Post, Chuck Bentley