Welcome to Class 74 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.
I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.
Today, we will continue our study, “BEWARE OF THE DAWGS II (Who Let the Dawgs Out?)”.
— First, Let’s Pray —
Allow me to begin with a quote from Michelle McKinney Hammond. She said: “No matter how long you have been waiting, the man God has for you will surpass your expectations. You will meet him when God says so. Not a minute early, not a moment later…. So be willing to wait. Only embrace a man who has a heart for God’s purposes for his life and God’s heart for you. Keep hope alive!”
Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:
Chihuahua Dawg: The Chihuahua dawg is normally a little man with a big mouth. He has a Napoleanic complex. He is insecure, and his bark is bigger than his bite. He knows how to get to some women with his ability to rap. He talks a big game, but he ain’t about nothing. These dawgs can’t back up what they talk about. All this dawg ends up doing is disappointing you. Don’t waste your time.
Alaskan Huskie Dawg: Now, the Alaskan Huskie is a hardworking dawg. This dawg hooks women because he always has some money. He drives a nice car that he keeps immaculate. He has a nice house. He is known to keep two or three jobs. Well, at least he works, but a dawg is a dawg is a dawg. You have to watch this dawg because he will hook you with what he has, but he is so stingy that he won’t share it with you unless you pay up what you have to offer, which is normally sex. Beware of this dawg.
The Show Dawg: Now the Show dawg is a good-for-nothing dawg. He is only good for show. This is the empty-hand and empty-pocket dawg who looks good on your arm when you go to important events. This dawg looks good and smells good, but he is of no use to you at all. He can’t do anything without you. You don’t want this kind of dawg. He will drag you down, and, as they say, “You can do bad all by yourself.”
German Shepherd Dawg: You can depend on the German Shepherd dawg for the most part. He is basically a good dawg, but when he turns on you, you are through. You see, the German Shepherd will appeal to you because of his faithfulness and dependability, but if you cross him, you are in trouble. The problem is that you will never know when the line is crossed.
In a recent article, Debra Fileta, a Licensed Professional Counselor, speaker, relationship expert and author wrote, “Finding someone to whom you are physically attracted is an important part of the equation of a healthy relationship. But it’s not the only part of the equation of attraction. It’s important for us to understand that attraction is multifaceted. While attraction may start as physical, it’s fueled by other aspects of connection: emotional, mental, and spiritual. I am thankful that I am married to a man that I find attractive. But I was surprised by my growing attraction to him because he was not my so-called ‘type.’ Physical attraction is a legitimate need in a relationship, but it must be kept in proper perspective because just because you’re physically attracted to someone, doesn’t mean they’re good for you. Sometimes we’re physically attracted to people because something unhealthy in us, connects with something unhealthy in them. That’s why that initial physical attraction has to be kept in proper perspective. Sometimes it’s skewed by our own internal struggles, and other times, it’s skewed by what the world has led us to believe is ‘attractive’.”
Young ladies, I cannot stress enough the importance of exercising discernment in the area of dating and marriage and not getting hooked up with someone solely on the basis of physical attraction, as Mrs. Fileta points out. Or solely on the basis of material attraction, I might add, meaning just because a man is a successful doctor, lawyer, or entrepreneur, etc, and has money and nice material possessions you choose to settle for him. While good looks and wealth are better to have than not in a mate and in a relationship headed toward marriage, there are more important things to have in a life partner such as inner beauty—at least if you intend on having a lasting marriage. Pray for, genuinely desire, and then choose the spiritual and substantive over the superficial and stylish. Although you might be blessed to hit the jackpot with a husband who is both good-looking and good-hearted, both rich in cash and rich in his walk with Christ, keep in mind that dating for the Christian woman is not a competition to catch the most handsome and/or rich man especially considering the fact he may be a “dawg”. Meditate upon God’s true purpose for marriage and remember that physical beauty and material things are fleeting on this earth and will fade away in due time.
In the next class, we will continue our study, “BEWARE OF THE DAWGS II (Who Let the Dawgs Out?).”
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.