PODCAST: Divorce, Part 6 (God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #66 with Daniel Whyte III)

God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #66

Welcome to God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems podcast. This is podcast #66

My name is Daniel Whyte III, president of Ordained Chaplains USA and Life coach. We don’t have to look far to see that many people in the world are dealing with a variety of problems and are in need of solutions. No matter what problem you are facing — whether it is emotional, psychological or spiritual — Jesus Christ holds the solution that you need. As we walk together in this podcast, we will address a number of topics that exist in the world and present solutions from the Bible that will help you heal and live life more abundantly. Our aim in this podcast is: (1) to introduce you to our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ, the ultimate source of all healing; (2) to provide you with information that will help you to understand the problem; and (3) to help you by providing solutions to your problems.

Our passage from the Word of God today is Luke 16:18. It reads, “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.”

Allow me to share with you some interesting points on this passage from Matthew Henry’s Commentary:

There were some things which were connived at by the law, for the preventing of greater mischiefs, the permission of which the gospel has indeed taken away, but without any detriment or disparagement to the law, for it has thereby reduced them to the primitive intention of the law, as in the case of divorce, which we had before. Christ will not allow divorces, for his gospel is intended to strike at the bitter root of men’s corrupt appetites and passions, to kill them, and pluck them up; and therefore they must not be so far indulged as that permission did indulge them, for the more they are indulged the more impetuous and headstrong they grow.

Our quote for today is from John C. Broger. He said, “Many conflicts in a marriage result from living to please self instead of living to please the Lord. These conflicts can be resolved and are actually opportunities for spiritual growth when dealt with in a biblical manner.”

The problem we are discussing today is “Divorce” (part 6) from the book, “The Guide to Biblical Counseling” by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Ron Hawkins.

For Couples Contemplating Divorce
1. Put the Divorce on Hold
Wait for a tie and attend marriage counseling if you have not yet done so.
Begin to meet with a trained marriage mentoring couple who can encourage and instruct you.
Considering the devastation a divorce causes for all involved, isn’t it worth your best efforts to save this marriage if you can? At the end of the marriage mentoring and counseling, you can revisit your decision and see if there is any reason to be hopeful.

2. Go to Marriage Mentoring and Counseling
(Have on file the names of several good Christians marriage counselors who have a record of success in helping couples restore their marriages.)
Work with pastoral staff to determine how and when to utilize marriage mentoring and professional counseling.

3. Read Books
Suggest to the couple this list of books:
Grace and Divorce: God’s Healing Gift to Those Whose Marriages Fall Short by Les Carter
Before a Bad Goodbye by Tim Clinton
Helping Children Survive Divorce by Archibald D. Hart
The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts by Judith S. Wallerstein
Divorce Recovery: For Those Starting Over Again by Tom Whiteman
Many people were once where you are today and they now have healthy and fulfilling marriages. It is helpful to read what has helped others.

For Victims of Divorce
1. Go to a Recovery Group
Start attending a divorce recovery group. Many larger churches have these groups (Research and recommend.)
Some groups last a specific number of weeks and some are 12-step programs that meet every week indefinitely.

2. Go to Counseling
Start individual counseling on a weekly basis. You need someone to whom you can be accountable.
Make a commitment to meet with a counselor once a week.

3. Make No Major Decisions
Do not make any major life decisions for at least a year without running it by your counselor or pastor.
This helps guard against making poor decisions while you are still emotionally vulnerable

4. Develop No New Relationships
Do not rush into any new dating relationships.
Focus on letting God fill the emptiness inside you. You need to heal before entering another relationship.

5. Pursue Church Involvement
Get involved in church and join a Sunday school class.
Seek out friends of the same sex to whom you can talk and with whom you can do activities.
When you feel up to it, serve and help others.

There were approximately 2,230,000 marriages in 2005–down from 2,279,000 the previous year, despite a total population increase of 2.9 million over the same period.

In our next broadcast, we will continue looking at the problem of Divorce.


Now, if you are listening today, and you do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as your Saviour, allow me to show you how.

First, accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”

Third, accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” Also, the Bible states in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”

Now this is bad news, but here’s the good news. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Just believe in your heart that Jesus Christ died for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead by the power of God for you so that you can live eternally with Him. Pray and ask Him to come into your heart today, and He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

If you have other questions about life’s problems for this podcast, please email us coach@ordainedchaplainsusa.org.

Until next time, my friend remember that God has a solution to all of your problems.