What if my children don’t like me anymore when they get older?”
“What if my child has a drifting heart as they age?”
A great fear that many parents have as their children get older is them gradually drifting away and losing interest in their relationship with mom and dad.
And granted, part of that’s natural as kids grow up, especially as they enter the preteen and teenage years. They are becoming more independent as they transition from childhood to adulthood.
But does the fear of losing a good relationship with your child have to be a reality that every parent must face? I don’t think so, and here’s the reason why.
“Kids most often drift away from their parents not because they’ve chosen to, but because their parents have inadvertently allowed them to.”
There’s a mistaken mindset that once a child becomes a teenager, we just have to start giving them their space and allow them to become their own person. But the great danger in that thinking is that parents begin to withdraw from their children at a time when their engagement in their life is needed possibly more than ever before.
Teens begin wanting to spend lots of time behind closed doors in their room, and parents allow them to do so, usually to the demise of both parties. It’s not healthy for kids to be allowed to disengage from family life, nor is it healthy for parents to lessen their influence in their child’s life at this stage.
No parent desires for their child’s heart to drift away from them, the family, or God, but the key to preventing a drifting heart is so much more simple than what most parents realize. I believe that it boils down to two main things. It is vitally important that you maintain:
Prevent A Child’s Heart From Drifting By:
1. REGULAR COMMUNICATION
As your kids get older, talk more, when the tendency is to talk less.
- Schedule times to take your child out and spend time in conversation about life one-on-one.
- Engage in regular and intentional conversations around the dinner table and other times throughout the day.
- Go out of your way to communicate that you care about them, their life, and the issues that they’re currently facing.
They desire someone to talk to about their life, and mark it down, they will talk to someone. It can either be you… or whoever else will listen.
Don’t believe the faulty “family sitcom” mindset that the older your kids get, the less they want and need to talk to you. Truth is, they crave communication with you.
Source: Church Leaders