Here We Go: Transgender Man Gives Birth to Non-binary Partner’s Baby with Transgender Woman’s Sperm Donation—and Even Their Doctor Is Transgender

Reuben, right, and Jay with their baby Jamie (Image: Adam Gerrard/Sunday Mirror)

Proud dad Reuben Sharpe today tells how HE gave birth to a miracle baby in Britain’s most modern family.

The 39-year-old transitioned to a man 12 years ago.

But he still had maternal instincts and six years ago stopped taking testosterone in the hope of one day having a child.

And that dream came true when he and partner Jay had a bouncing baby.

Jay is non-binary – so does not identify as male or female.

The sperm donor was a trans woman… and even the DOCTOR was transgender.

And while a handful of other UK men have fallen pregnant after transitioning from a woman, Reuben and Jay are among the first couples to speak out about their remarkable journey.

Little Jamie arrived three months ago and the family have just enjoyed the best of Christmases.

Beaming with pride, wedding photographer Reuben says: “It’s taken six years to get this far, but now we have a baby in our arms and that was the end goal. I finally feel complete.

“It wasn’t that I was desperate to have the birthing experience or pregnancy experience, but I wanted a child and I had the facility to do it.


“Both of our families love kids. I was so glad my family were as excited about our baby as they were their other grandkids.”

The road to parenthood has certainly been long and winding.

Reuben explains how he began living as a man in 2007 – taking male hormones which left him with a beard, deep voice and masculine features.

But realising he wanted a baby, Reuben spoke to a trusted trans doctor about the possibility of falling pregnant.

He was reassured it was possible as he still had his womb and ovaries.

So he took a break from his testosterone medicine to enable him to undergo fertility treatment.

Reuben met fellow wedding snapper Jay, 28, in a pub and the pair hit it off.

Jay – who is referred to as “them” or “they” rather than he or she – has had a double breast removal.

As the couple grew closer, Reuben broached the topic of pregnancy.

He said: “After a few months I started getting nervous, realising I was planning to have a kid – I’d been building towards it for three years to this point. I realised I would have to talk to them.

“If they didn’t want kids we’d have to break up.

“I managed to bring up the subject but luckily Jay was open to the idea.”

Jay adds: “It just seemed right – we wanted to raise kids similarly.”

Reuben faced endless tests on his hormone levels and fertility and at one point a friend offered to carry the baby for him if he was unable to.

Then Reuben got his first break. He explains: “I woke up the next morning and my period had started for the first time in six years.

“It was such a relief. It’s weird, but I knew it was the start of something I wanted so badly.”

Next, Reuben and Jay had to consider who could act as the sperm donor. They Facebooked a contact who is a trans woman but can still produce sperm.

Reuben adds: “I thought they would be perfect.

“Sperm donation is a big decision to make, but when we asked the donor, it felt so right. We sent a message on Facebook to ask.”

Jay and Reuben chose to have IUI, which means the sperm was inserted into Reuben’s womb by a doctor at a private fertility clinic. Three rounds of treatment cost £6,000.

Reuben goes on: “The first round didn’t work. They gave me a fertility injection and I released too many eggs. We couldn’t go through with that attempt as we could have ended up with six children!

“Deflated, we became convinced it wasn’t going to work.

“We tried a second time and the earliest point I could test was on my birthday. We’d been on edge for weeks.


“I did the test, ignored it and went to brush my teeth. Suddenly Jay was shouting me into the room and telling me to look – it was a positive result.”

The pair did five more pregnancy tests to be certain – then celebrated.

The months ahead were a rollercoaster of emotions… joy at their impending birth, discomfort at getting strange looks in hospital waiting rooms and sadness at bigotry from some people unwilling to understand or accept their situation. Jay says: “Sometimes we’d go to appointments and be treated like celebrities.

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SOURCE: – Helen Whitehouse