Welcome to Class 73 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.
I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.
Today, we will continue our study, “BEWARE OF THE DAWGS II (Who Let the Dawgs Out?)”.
— First, Let’s Pray —
Allow me to begin with a quote. It says: “Attention Christian Women: Just because a man visits your church a few times, quotes a few scriptures and prays with you, this DOES NOT make him a Christian and it does not make him the man you think God sent to you. Use discernment. The devil comes in many forms.”
Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:
Poodle Dawg: Watch out for the Poodle dawg! Now this is a dangerous dawg because he’s got some sugar in his tank. This is the effeminate dawg. He prides himself on having a male side and a female side. He goes both ways. He hooks women by being able to relate to them. He knows how to get close to you like one of your girlfriends. This is how so many women get fooled, and sadly, get AIDS because behind his sweet personality is a dawg in the truest sense. This dawg can be on the “down-low,” therefore making him a “low-down” dawg. Watch out, I tell you! Warning: All dawgs listed in this list can give you a venereal disease, including AIDS.
Seeing Eye Dawg: Now the Seeing Eye dawg is the go everywhere dawg. You will even find this dawg in church — which makes him a very dangerous dawg indeed. He can be saved or lost (yes, there are some “saved” brothers who walk in the dawg from time to time). Women trust him because he is in the church, and that is how he gets over on them. This dawg is very sneaky, so keep your eyes open. Special Warning: Daughters and YBW, I hate to have to share this with you, but I would encourage you to never seek counseling with a pastor or a male leader in the church alone. Always take someone with you, such as, an older lady of the church or even the pastor’s wife. And never meet with a pastor or any church leader behind closed doors under any circumstances; because, sad to say, there are some Seeing Eye dawgs in the pulpit.
Rottweiler Dawg: Now the Rottweiler dawg likes to fight. If things don’t go the way he wants them to go, he wants to fight you. He just can’t get angry, say a few words, and walk away. He’s got to give you a black eye, and send you to the hospital. Strangely enough, though, he gets his share of women. I strongly urge you to stay away from this dawg because this dawg is not only known to bite; he’s known to kill as well.
Pit Bull Dawg: Now the Pit Bull dawg is crazy. He may be built fine, but this is a crazy dawg. He’s schizophrenic. This dawg may be nice one day, and then mean as the devil the next. He hooks women by his unpredictability and craziness. Some women are attracted to him because they see him as exciting, thrilling, and a man that offers them a big challenge to tame him. Don’t get sucked in by this crazy dawg.
Bull Dawg: The Bull dawg is stubborn. You can’t tell the Bull dawg anything because he is bull-headed. He won’t go to college, and he won’t go to church because he thinks he already knows everything. He always has something to say, but never wants to listen to anybody. You don’t want to get entangled with this dawg because this dawg is a foolish dawg that will lead you to nowhere fast.
Hound Dawg: Do you remember the song “You Ain’t Nothing But a Hound Dog,” by Elvis Presley? Well, that is what you have here. The Hound dawg is a lazy dawg. He expects you to take care of him. Normally, he can’t keep a job, and he doesn’t pay what few bills he does have on time. He never has any money to give to you, but he always has his hand out behind his back for some money from you. If you are not careful, the Hound dawg will have you taking care of him. Let a sleeping dawg lie.
Unfortunately, as you can see from the “dawgs” warned about in the corresponding chapter text, the type of men some women are attracted to not only have a few bad traits (like all people do) but have chosen to be plain ‘ol sorry by living far beneath their potential and refusing to listen to God and submit to his Word. These men refuse to work and even better themselves by pursuing a higher education, choosing instead to lazy around and mooch off whatever you have going on for yourself. Perhaps they never grew out of the boyhood stage of becoming a man and now they expect you to function as their mother and will get mad when you refuse to carry out this expectation. Young ladies, this is not how things should be. He should have a house to put you in, not the other way around. No matter how naturally caring and concerned you may be, do not fall into the trap of providing for a man who is supposed to be your boyfriend/husband and who is devoid of passion and vision and hard-working perseverance for his own life, for he will be like an albatross around your neck and hinder you from reaching heights of success in your own life. Some of these men may talk a good game, but that’s all it is—talk. Some may even go to church, but you’ll soon find out that they are prideful, not submitted to the lordship of Christ, only doing what is right in their own eyes. As a result, they have major character flaws such as capriciousness and do not shew forth the fruit of the Spirit, acting burdensome and/or bullying towards you instead. These are all red flags in potential dates and mates, and it would do you well to keep your distance.
In the next class, we will continue our study, “BEWARE OF THE DAWGS II (Who Let the Dawgs Out?).”
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.