Welcome to Class 73 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young men. I am Daniel Whyte III, chairman of the National Association to Save Young Black Men in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.
I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men”. We are using that book as the text and its study guide to guide you through the course. The study guide was developed with the help of Jamie McCallum (M.Div, Truett Theological Seminary), Charles Garrett (M.Div, Southwestern Theological Seminary), and now my youngest son Danyel Ezekiel Whyte who is in his third year of college. This course is for all young men, but especially for young black men and young men of color who oftentimes have a “difficult journey” in this great country called America. I call this class “the Ramp” to the Highway of Success because my goal is to get you on “the Ramp”. As a man, you ought to be able to make it from there. Out of respect for you as a young man, my job is to get you on the ramp and point you in the right direction, not to tell you all the details once you get onto the highway of success. With God, you can do great things.
— Let’s Pray —
This is part 5 of our lesson titled “Oh, The Mistakes I’ve Made.”
The second trouble that I brought upon myself during my young years was loving women and using women for all the wrong reasons. Dear brother, when God made women, He made something! To me, there is nothing on God’s green earth more beautiful than “Phat” women. Nothing! (For the ebonically challenged, “Phat” means very fine.)
I am an out and out Christian man; I am a minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ; I pray and read the Bible every day; I’ve been married for twenty years now to my first and only wife, but I don’t think I will ever get over God’s handiwork of the second and third quarters of a woman’s body. Most men, if they are honest, will tell you that their greatest struggle in life is the same struggle that David and Samson experienced—“Phat” women folk. We criticize Adam for casting all of humanity toward the gates of hell, but the fact of the matter is, if we had seen the first, second and third quarter of the naked body of Eve, not only would we have eaten the apple, we would have eaten the entire tree and then we would have helped to plant another one. You know I am right about that.
Be that as it may, the truth of the matter is, men who violate the Word of God by having sex with women they are not married to, will pay for doing so. Look at King David and Bathsheba— God took away the son who was born to them out of their sin, and trouble never left his house. Samson’s lust for women caused him to get deceived by a conniving woman named Delilah, and he ended up with his eyes plucked out.
You may ask, why do I have to pay for having sex with a woman I am not married to? Notice what God says in His Holy Word on this matter.
I Corinthians 6:18 says “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”
I Corinthians 7:1 says “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.”
Fooling around with women is one of the quickest ways a young man can ruin his life. It is also one of the most common temptations that young men deal with. While the sin may be pleasurable for a little while, the Bible tells that the end of this sin is death and hell. Whether you are the preying on the woman or the woman is preying on you, committing this sin will have horrible consequences for your life.
How many powerful men have been brought low by women who revealed their sex scandals years after they happened? How many men must pay child support and alimony for the rest of their lives because of a stupid decision made in his youth? How many men are left with the everlasting guilt of paying for an abortion or pressuring a woman into getting one? How many men are dead today because they messed with the wrong man’s wife or daughter? And in the most lasting consequence of all, how many young men and young men are sucked into a life of crime and immorality because they never had a father figure in their life?
When you engage in sexual sin, you are not only sinning against the woman, yourself, and God, you are contributing to the moral decay of the black community and society as a whole. No other community in America is as affected by abortion and fatherless like the black community, and the poverty and crime among African-Americans can often be traced back to a lack of good father figures and male role models. Engaging in sexual sin is buying a little pleasure in exchange for your entire future.
If the Lord tarries His Coming and we live, we will continue lessons in our next class.
In closing, Tony Dungy, the first black coach to win the Super Bowl and the host of NBC’s Sunday Night Football said, “You are never going to get anywhere in sports or in life until you become convinced of the truth of the gospel of Jesus Christ. You may become a professional athlete or have fame and nice cars and nice houses and a lot of money, but what you’ll find is that all of that stuff goes away pretty quickly. You have to understand that Christ died for our sins, and that He died not just to be our Savior but so that He could be the center of our lives.”
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what the church people I grew up around said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
If the Lord tarries His Coming and we live, I’ll see you for our next class.