Welcome to Class 72 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.
I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.
Today, we will begin our study, “BEWARE OF THE DAWGS II (Who Let the Dawgs Out?)”.
— First, Let’s Pray —
Allow me to begin with a quote from Phil McGraw: “It’s better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else.”
Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:
Dear Daughters & YBW:
After writing my last letter to you, I got into bed and was about to go to sleep, when the idea came to my mind that I should write you and tell you specifically the different kinds of dawgs of which you should be aware. Here they are:
Collie Dawg: I don’t know about you, but when I think about a Collie dog, I think about the old television show Lassie. Now, Lassie might be before your time. But all Collies, like Lassie, are considered “smart” dogs. So you have to watch out for the Collie dawg because he is a smart dawg. This dawg is a master of psychology. He plans. He plots. He thinks. The Collie plays games with your mind. He is a mind-manipulator. Dr. Frederick K.C. Price said once while preaching that: “Some women are so easy that some men can talk their panties right off of them.” This is the dawg who can do that. He plays games with you, like taking you out and showing you the time of your life, and then leaves you panting for more. Then you won’t hear from him for a couple of weeks because he is trying to mess with your mind. Watch out for the Collie Dawg.
Chow-Chow Dawg: This dawg hooks women because he is so pretty. Have you ever seen a Chow-Chow? It’s a beautiful dog, isn’t it? I remember when I was a youngster, there was a man in town (I won’t tell you his name; I’ll just call him D.B.). The women were so crazy about him because he was so pretty. You know the type — light skin, curly “good” hair, fine build. But the women soon found out that he was just another dawg —albeit a pretty dawg. D.B. was famous for one thing in our little city, and that was having babies all over town. The problem with the Chow-Chow dawg is that he may be pretty, but oftentimes, he does not want to take responsibility for his actions. The pretty dawg wants you to take care of him instead of him taking care of you. Remember, watch out for “Pretty Tony.”
Great Dane Dawg: Be careful and watch out for the Great Dane dawg. He likes to hook unsuspecting women through his sexual prowess. He’s the kind that brags about his abilities. This causes some women to be curious like Eve was, and like a dumb fish, they get hooked, and this dawg reels them in, and devours them.
In the realm of dating, friends—both men and women—will often point out how someone in their group has a “type,” meaning a specific style of person he or she almost always finds attractive and falls for. Based on this analysis, friends will pick out potential mates for each other and especially for that member of their group. Perhaps you have a girlfriend like that, who is only interested in dating and marrying a certain type of man and who is uninterested in other prospects. Maybe you are this member of your friend group and your girlfriends are always introducing you to dates who they think fit your specified “type.” There is nothing wrong necessarily with having a type. As the sayings go, ‘There is someone for everyone’ and ‘Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.’ In fact, God made certain men to be attractive to certain women and vice versa so that they would be driven to marry and “be fruitful and multiply” through procreation (Gen 1:28). Where the danger comes in at is when a man who you deem to be your type is not truthful and turns out to be toxic for you. Yes, you would be wise to do as the ancient Greek aphorism attributed to the great philosopher Socrates states and “know thyself.” But in getting to know yourself, know your “type” as well if you see that you have one—whether it be the “Collie,” “Chow-Chow,” “Great Dane,” etc.—and pray to discern between those men who may be your type but who are “dawgs.” Yield not to temptation.
In the next class, we will continue our study, “BEWARE OF THE DAWGS II (Who Let the Dawgs Out?).”
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, gospellightsociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.