PODCAST: Grief and Mourning, Part 7 (Preparing for the Inevitable #55 with Daniel Whyte III)

Welcome to Episode #55 of Preparing for the Inevitable – A Podcast on How to Handle Trouble, Suffering, Pain, and Death.

I am your host, Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society International. This podcast will help you get ready to face the inevitable unpleasant things that will happen in your life — things like trouble, suffering, sickness, and death — the death of people you love and your own death. Trouble, suffering, and death are common threads that run throughout all of humanity. They are inescapable. You will never meet a person who has not, is not, or will not experience these terrible things in life. Yet, we attempt to hide from these inevitabilities, to pretend they don’t exist or that they won’t happen to us. Our world is filled with news of people dying, children suffering, entire government systems and organizations enduring trouble and turmoil, but we tend to see these as things that only happen to “other people” and never to us. Trouble, suffering, and death come equally to all people, of all races, from every socio-economic status, of every religion, in every country of the world. It makes us all equal. This podcast will show you how to accept these realities of life, and not just cope, but face trouble, suffering, and death in your own life and in the world with confidence, courage, class, and most of all, with faith, hope, and charity.

The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 7:4: “The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning; but the heart of fools is in the house of mirth.”

The featured quote for this episode is from an C.S. Lewis. He said, “I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.”

Our topic for today is titled “Grief and Mourning, Part 7: The Danger of Interruption” from the book, “The Art of Dying: Living Fully into the Life to Come” by Rob Moll.

While we do not mourn as those who have no hope, we do mourn. “We advocate understanding biblical lament,” Robert says. “Though heaven is a real place, we do lament here on earth.”

“A lot of folks think that Christianity simply has to be joy, victory, peace and comfort.” When Christians don’t allow for true lament, they can cut short the grieving process. “You will have trouble in this world, Jesus says. You’ve got to understand and accept that,” says Robert. “Blessed are those who mourn.”

Proper grieving takes time, and taking that time recognizes the importance of the person’s life. When two people, husband and wife, parent and child, brother and sister, close friends, have intertwined their lives together, it takes time to undo those ties. The grief process acknowledges the depth of the relationship. “A lot of people assume that you are going to want to go back to what you had before,” Robert says. “You don’t go back to what it had been before.” Mourning is the transition from one life with a person we loved to another life without that person.

Any person who loses a loved one needs to recognize, Susan says, “I was attached to this person. I walked through life with this person, and this person has interwoven his or her life with mine. I’m hurting in all the ways that this person was in my life. I have to make some really major adjustments.” Doing this takes time, and those in mourning should not allow others to hurry them through this process.

“Our society,” says Susan, “wants to make it easy on everybody.” We rush along the grieving process, encouraging people to move on or sending subtle expectations that a person in mourning should return to life as before. Like C. S. Lewis’s friends, death makes us feel so awkward that we push the grieving person to “act normal” again. This behavior doesn’t recognize “that when we do that we’re actually making it harder for that person to work through grief, because facing pain heals it.”

“We think that, from a Christian perspective, if a grieving person gets back and sings in the choir or teaches Sunday school again that will be a good sign,” Susan says. Unfortunately, getting back to the old things may be simply a distraction from doing the work of grieving. Churches too often play a role in distracting mourners from grieving, rather than helping them along that journey, Susan says. “Churches are much more available when people are dying than when people are grieving, and a lot of people feel that the church just doesn’t acknowledge them any longer [when they don’t quickly return to their old ways].”

If the Lord tarries His Coming and we live, we will continue looking at “Grief and Mourning” in our next podcast.

Let’s Pray —

Dear friend, please understand that after you die, you will be ushered into one of two places to spend eternity, Heaven or Hell. Here’s how you can be sure that you will not go to hell and suffer eternal damnation forever and rather have a home in Heaven when you die. The Bible says, ”Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and thou shalt be saved.” Here’s how you can be saved from sin and hell and have a home in Heaven when you die in more detail.

1. Accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 7:20: “For there is not a just man upon earth that doeth good, and sinneth not.” Romans 3:23 reads: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.” In fact, I am the chief of sinners, so don’t think that you’re alone.

2. Accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”

3. Accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” The Bible says in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”

4. Accept the fact that you cannot do anything to save yourself! The Bible states in Ephesians 2: 8, 9: “For by grace are ye saved through faith: and that not of yourselves: it is a gift of God. Not of works, lest any man should boast.”

5. Accept the fact that God loves you more than you love yourself, and that He wants to save you from hell. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16, “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

6. With these facts in mind, please repent of your sins, believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and pray and ask Him to come into your heart and save you this very moment. The Bible states in the book of Romans 10:9, 13: “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.”

“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

Dear friend, if you are willing to believe on the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation, please pray with me this simple prayer: Heavenly Father, I realize that I am a sinner and that I have done some bad things in my life. For Jesus Christ sake, please forgive me of my sins. I now believe with all of my heart that Jesus Christ died for me, was buried, and rose again. Lord Jesus, please come into my heart and save my soul and change my life today. Amen.

If you believed in your heart that Jesus Christ died on the cross, was buried, and rose again, allow me to say, congratulations on doing the most important thing in life and that is accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour! For more information to help you grow in your newfound faith in Christ, go to Gospel Light Society.com and read “What To Do After You Enter Through the Door”. Jesus Christ said in John 10:9, “I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture.”