Welcome to Class 69 of “The Ramp” to the Highway of Success course for young women. I am Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society, working in partnership with the Martin Luther King Senior Institute for Young Men & Young Women. The Institute aims to honor the legacy of Martin Luther King Sr., commonly referred to as “Daddy King”, whom God used to raise the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. Our purpose is to guide young men and young women, and help them get on the path to becoming kings and queens for the glory of God.
I am your instructor for this course and the author of the ESSENCE Magazine bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Men” and the national bestselling book “Letters to Young Black Women.” My wife, Meriqua Whyte, and my eldest daughter, Daniella Whyte, co-authored “Letters to Young Black Women” with me. My daughter (who has two bachelor’s degrees in psychology and religion and a master’s degree in human services counseling—executive leadership and a second master’s degree in developmental psychology) and her mother, developed the Study Guide. We are using Letters to Young Black Women and its study guide to guide you through this course. This course is for all young women, but especially for young black women and young women of color who oftentimes face disadvantages that others do not. The goal of this class is to help you operate from a position of strength and power based upon the Word of God so you can be victorious in life. My prayer is that this class will empower you to win against your enemies: the devil, sorry men, and even yourself.
Today, we will continue our study, “ON YOUR LIFE — As a Young Black Woman: BEWARE OF THE DAWGS”.
— First, Let’s Pray —
Allow me to begin with a quote from Charles Spurgeon. He said, “Discernment is not knowing the difference between right and wrong. It is knowing the difference between right and almost right.”
Now, please pull out your text and your digital study guide or follow along on the screen. First, I will read a portion of the corresponding letter from the book, Letters to Young Black Women. Then we will proceed with this lesson:
The Nature of the Dawg
Even though the dawg is heartless, largely because of his background, this does not mean he can’t “put on the dog.” The nature of the dawg, like the devil, is very deceptive. He looks good on the outside, but on the inside he is full of deceit and corruption. The Bible says they will “come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves” (Matthew 7:15). His name might be “Angel,” but he is a devil on the inside. It is the nature of the dawg to feel as though, if given enough time to operate, he can get to any woman that he wants. It doesn’t matter to him whether the woman is single or married. He is very confident that if he can get the woman alone, with enough time, he can deceive her into giving him what he wants — which in most cases is sex.
The Modus Operandi of the Dawg
You need to know how the dawg operates so that you can protect yourself from the dawg. Now, the first thing the dawg knows is that you have some weaknesses. In other words, he will probe for a weakness, a dark spot in your own life. You see, the dawg is convinced that there is some evil in you too.
The second thing that the dawg wants to work on is eye contact, for the dawg feels that if he can make good eye contact with you, he is fifty percent toward his goal. Now, mind you, the dawg does not care who you are, or who you are with, be it your boyfriend, husband, or parents. He truly believes in his mind that if he can get some good eye contact with you, he can get you. Sister, don’t let anybody fool you; there is power in the eyes. Whatever you do, DON’T GIVE HIM YOUR EYES IF YOU DON’T WANT HIM TO GET YOU.
Now, if he is successful at these two points, the dawg begins to work his psychological magic. For example, at school or at work, he will come by your desk and just tap it and wave with a smile. At this point, he won’t say anything; he will just wave and smile. He’ll do this for several weeks. Now you won’t know what is going on, but he is working on you. And you will begin thinking, “Oh, he’s just such a nice guy.” That is exactly what he wants you to think. At that point, the dawg will begin to pour on his charm, and what he wants you to think is that he is expressing “feelings of love” toward you. Now when the dawg begins to express some “feelings of love” toward you, don’t be deceived. When he begins to say that he loves you, watch out!
The dawg is lying and telling you the truth at the same time. Oh! He loves you alright: He loves the shape of your body, he loves the softness of your skin, he loves the sound of your voice, and he loves the way you smell. Yes, he loves you alright. He loves what you can do for him, and how you can make him feel.
The outward appearance consisting of look and dress is perhaps the primary cause of why and how people get deceived in this world. As much as we might hate to admit it, first impressions are made based on one’s outward appearance. The desire of men and women alike to impress and appear to be a certain way before others is what fuels the trillion dollar clothing and makeup industries. People buy knock-off versions of high fashion apparel, shoes, and accessories to try to fool their counterparts into thinking they are the cream of the crop materially speaking, when in reality if you peeked behind the scenes you would discover that their bank account is in the hole, their life is in shambles, and they are barely making it day-to-day doing things the fake way. People are even getting surgery done to alter their natural bodies and getting fake body parts applied to look a part that they really aren’t. Too many people in our world are like the proverbial used car sold to an unassuming customer by a corrupt car salesman – good-looking, sparkling, and shiny on the outside but writhing with problems internally. Now, think about it. Would you immediately fall for a man who came into your life looking homeless, dirty, and unkempt, like he has nothing going on in for him in life? Of course not! Likewise, you need to be wary of the man who comes into your life looking handsome and well put together, as if he has everything going for him, and claiming to be wooing you. Although you do not need to be paranoid, you should always have your guard up. Sometimes you must think like the enemy in order to sidestep his plots, thwart his plans, and escape the wicked web he is weaving to try to catch you in. Ask God to protect you from forming destructive soul ties and toxic relationships with boyfriends and potential husbands. Pray for God to remove people from your life whose evil intentions you are blinded to – people who are lying to you and using you but pretending to love you to your face.
In the next class, we will continue our study, “Beware of the Dawgs.”
Now, like many of you, I grew up in a very religious and church-going family, and during that time, I often heard the phrase “Being Saved.” Now, much of what church people said “being saved” was back then especially, in my community, is wrong according to the Bible. I wrote an article about it titled “On ‘Being Saved’ in Black America” which is available for you to read free of charge on our website, GospelLightSociety.com. Right now, I want to share with you very briefly what the Bible says “being saved” really is.
First, understand that you need to be saved because you are a sinner. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”
Second, understand that a horrible punishment — eternal Hell — awaits those who are not saved. In Matthew 25:41, Jesus Christ said that God will say to those who are not saved, “depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.”
Third, realize that God loves you very much and wants to save you from Hell. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” If you want to be saved from Hell and be guaranteed a home in Heaven, simply believe in Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose from the dead for your sins, and then call upon Him in prayer and ask Him to save your soul. And believe me, He will.
Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That is the most important decision you will ever make.
God bless you and keep you until we meet for our next class.