Evan Doyle on How to Speak Well of Your Spouse in Public

Learning how to speak well of your spouse is vital to your relationship.  Speaking well of others, especially your spouse also matters to the health of your small group.

When Tiffany and I were first married we regularly attended young married events that were similar to a small group environment.  The events typically started off relaxed with everyone just hanging out.  Later in the evening a teaching would be presented followed by group discussion.

I’ll never forget the time when a couple was sharing and the husband called his wife a bonehead.  The conversation came to a brief halt and even worse the wife shut down.  Who could blame her?  I’m sure that if we would have been able to see what people were thinking it would have been, “Did he really just say that?!”

Everyone there witnessed firsthand that “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.”[1]

The health of your relationships will directly affect your influence as a leader.  This will hold true and have power to impact positively or negatively depending on the condition of your relationships.

In order for members of  small groups to be authentic, they must know that what they have discussed will not be shared as gossip.  And, members of the group will display honor by not saying anything that will embarrass or put down their spouse or other members.

Below are ways to promote health within your relationships and to be a model to those you lead through the words that you share.

Here are three ways to always speak well of your spouse:

Always Choose Words That Honor Each Other

Esteem your wife.  A husband should always hold his wife in high regard.

Husbands esteem your wife in word & action, even in public. This communicates honor to her & others.

1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Husbands thrive on respect. Wives ask, “Am I communicating respect in word & action?”