Progressive Christians Look for New Parenting Resources in a Conservative-Dominated Market

Author Matthew Paul Turner with his family. Photo by Melissa Morgan Photography (

When reading Christian children’s books with his three children, Matthew Paul Turner found himself having to think on the fly.

Turner would do “a quick little change of the words” when he would run into a theology or idea he didn’t want to teach his children, either because he believed differently or because he believed his children were too young to need to grapple with it.

Turner, who identifies as a progressive Christian, isn’t the only Christian who has shifted from conservative to progressive views as an adult. For many, that means a faith that emphasizes love, social justice and space for questions about the theological ideas they were raised to believe.

And for those who are parents, it means wanting to raise their children with a different view of God and the Bible than the one they grew up with. The problem? Christian children’s resources almost all skew conservative.

So Turner, who has authored a number of books for adults, started to toy with the idea of writing a children’s book.

“I just was like, is it possible to write a book that really reflects love and hope and light — that affirms the child’s personhood and speaks to how God has created this idea for our kids?” he said.

In 2015, after being rejected by 11 publishers, Turner self-published the children’s book, “When God Made Light,” a whimsically illustrated book (illustrations by David Catrow) that celebrates the many forms of light — from stars to fireflies — and tells children there is a light in them, too, “an inner God-given spark that grows and will be used to change the world.”

When nearly every copy quickly sold, Convergent (an imprint of Random House) picked it up and asked him to write another one (“When God Made You”). Turner has since published a third with Convergent, “When I Pray for You,” which recently passed 100,000 copies sold.

The author said he believes he is writing these books “for the kid I was … what I wish somebody had told me about God.”

“I was told how much I was a sinner or how terrible I was or how much I needed Jesus to die for my sins long before I realized and understood the concept that God created me, he adored me, (he) made me with purpose,” said Turner, recalling a conservative Independent Fundamental Baptist Church upbringing that included a Sunday school illustration of hell that ended in a Barbie doll set aflame.

“I just think it’s really important, as progressive people of faith, while we are in the process of finding new ways to celebrate or explore our faith, that we offer something as a foundation to the kids,” he said.

Millennials are more likely than other generations to shift from identifying as affiliated with a religious tradition to unaffiliated, according to the Pew Research Center’s most recent U.S. Religious Landscape Survey.

Of American millennials ages 18 to 29, 18% have left religion, and another 20% have shifted to another faith or within their faith tradition, according to Pew data.

And in a 2018 Barna survey, one in five practicing Christian millennials (defined as those who attend church regularly and say faith is important to their lives) said they remain Christian “despite having grown up with a negative example of Christianity.” The report, titled “Households of Faith,” also noted that this same group is more likely to rely on their spouse or on friends rather than their parents for spiritual advice.

Cindy Wang Brandt. Courtesy photo

This desire for like-minded community might explain why Cindy Wang Brandt‘s Facebook group “Raising Children UnFundamentalist” has nearly 16,000 members who are all asking similar questions about raising children in or after a faith shift.

Brandt is the author of “Parenting Forward: How to Raise Children with Justice, Mercy, and Kindness” and has a podcast and upcoming online conference by the same name.

“There is such a growing group of people who are going through this process of faith shifting,” she said.

“As compared to in the past, where generation after generation, you just kept the same faith … which is beautiful in a way,” she added. “But we are here. This is our time. And these are the realities we have to grapple with.”

“Parenting Forward” by Cindy
Wang Brandt. Courtesy image

Progressive Christians aren’t a monolith. People can be at different points along the faith shift, and many Brandt encounters pride themselves in an evolving faith that is always open to change.

That can make finding parenting resources difficult. “There’s nothing that will totally fit your need,” Brandt said, and she often finds herself giving recommendations with caveats.

Many are looking for children’s resources that represent diversity — including race and gendered language used to describe God. And they want resources that stress social justice.

“Our interest in more progressive books has definitely increased,” said Naomi Krueger, an acquisitions editor for Beaming Books, the children’s imprint of the mainline Evangelical Lutheran Church in America’s 1517 Media. That comes as the publisher both releases more books and responds to demand from parents.

As an editor, Krueger said she is looking for books that don’t include “toxic theology, toxic masculinity, patriarchy” or that do show Jesus as a “brown, Middle Eastern man.”

“People are not satisfied with the more fundamentalist or pat answers that they might see or things that glossed over lived reality of what they’re seeing in the world,” she said. “So they want books that align with their own theology and things they’ve come to believe as adults.

“They don’t want their kids to have to deconstruct later. Why would we give our child something we don’t believe in?”

Krueger, herself a millennial parent of two, described the books Beaming Books publishes as ones focused more on grace and love than on sin and shame. Some may not even mention God or spirituality — but all are rooted in Christian values.

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Source: Religion News Service