I Kissed Dating Goodbye author Joshua Harris announced today that he is not a Christian according to traditional definitions of Christianity. His announcement comes days after announcing he and his wife are separating.
“The information that was left out of our announcement is that I have undergone a massive shift in regard to my faith in Jesus,” Harris writes on Instagram. “The popular phrase for this is ‘deconstruction,’ the biblical phrase is ‘falling away.’ By all the measurements that I have for defining a Christian, I am not a Christian. Many people tell me that there is a different way to practice faith and I want to remain open to this, but I’m not there now.”
Several days ago, Harris and his wife, Shannon Bonne, announced they were separating after 19 years of marriage.
“In recent years, some significant changes have taken place in both of us,” he and Shannon wrote on their respective Instagram accounts. “It is with sincere love for each other and understanding of our unique story as a couple that we are moving forward with this decision.”
Harris rose to prominence in conservative Christian circles when he wrote his book I Kissed Dating Goodbye in 1997 and, three years later, Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship. In the books, he encouraged Christians to avoid the dating scene and instead pursue a group- and family-oriented approach he called courtship.
Last year, he wrote an official statement apologizing for the books, saying he spent two years talking to people who said the books greatly hurt them. He stepped down as lead pastor from Covenant Life in 2015 and became a brand and marketing strategist.
In his latest post about his faith, Harris also says he has learned that “no group has the market cornered on grace.” He describes the grace and kind words he has received after his divorce announcement, coming from Christians, atheists, evangelicals, “exvangelicals” (those who have abandoned their evangelical upbringing), heterosexual people and LGBTQ people.
“Of course there have also been strong words of rebuke from religious people,” Harris says. “While not always pleasant, I know they are seeking to love me. (There have also been spiteful, hateful comments that have angered and hurt me.)”
Harris says he regrets and even repents for his former “self-righteous, … fear-based approach to life, the teaching of my books, my views of women in the church, and my approach to parenting to name a few.”
Now, Harris adds one more prominent regret: His beliefs on LGBT issues.’
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SOURCE: Charisma News, Jenny Rose Spaudo
