Chuck Bentley Answers: Help! I’m Christian But Secretly Watch Porn

Dear Chuck,

I am a Christian male, happily married with a beautiful wife and two young children. I secretly watch porn way too often. Sometimes I watch on my mobile phone while at work. I am beginning to worry since it makes me feel depressed and guilty. My wife or boss may start to question what is going on. My sales commissions are going down and yet, I watch more porn. How can I get a grip on this before it takes me down?

Trapped in Porn

Dear Trapped,

Thank you for your honest question and for reaching out. Your concerns regarding this issue are valid; it is a very serious addiction. The consequences of this are significant to you, your wife, your children and your relationship with the Lord. It is not uncommon for porn users to lose their emotional stability, their job, and their marriage; and in some cases, their lives.

The Shocking Statistics

To better understand the problem, I did some quick research. The statistics shocked and deeply saddened me as I read. The global industry is bigger than all of the major TV networks combined or all of the professional sports: football, baseball, and basketball combined. Americans are the number one producers and consumers of porn worldwide.

Max Anderson from The Weekend Reader reports:

In 2017, one website alone served up 25 billion (with a “b”) searches. That is about 50,000 searches per minute, or 3.5 searches for porn for every man, woman and child in the world. Again, this is a single website. This site streamed more than 10 million gigabytes of pornographic content every day in 2017.

Another article states:

Many porn addicts face the additional financial worry that they might lose their jobs: with the shocking figure that 70 percent of porn viewing occurs during normal business hours, it is clear that this is an addiction that cannot be left at the office door, and that many individuals are risking their career and their financial security to get their next fix… According to the Family Research Council, almost half of porn addicts will lose their job as a result of choosing to view pornography in the workplace.

This is a terrible problem for millions of people. But let’s get practical. Here are my tips to help you escape this trap. I hope they help you and anyone else struggling with the constant, ever-present danger of porn.

Live in Reality

Porn is based on fantasy. Participants are paid actors controlled by money, not love or healthy sexual attraction.

Think Like a Parent

What if an actor was your child? Seeing them as someone’s child, grandchild, sister or brother will make your heart hurt for the pain that they and their family must be experiencing. Don’t inflict more pain on them by your support.

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SOURCE: Christian Post, Chuck Bentley