Sometimes premarital counseling includes conversations about having children. But what about conversations about not being able to have children?
You want to have a child, but it’s not happening. The doctor returns heartbreaking news: You or your spouse has reduced fertility. Any chance of having a biological child means a long, hard, and expensive course of treatment.
But which of the dozens of treatment options are moral and life-affirming, and which are not? Few Christians ask, much less take the time or moral energy to wrestle through, that tough question. Too many pastors and Christian advisers lack the ethical training to advise couples.
Now, my wife and I know nothing about the pain and disappointment of infertility. But my friends who do describe it as simply brutal. Our first response to them should be with care, understanding, and prayer.
But guidance is needed too, as technological options continue to accelerate and become even more controversial. I’ll admit that well-informed Christians who study bioethics can come to different conclusions. For example, I recently interviewed my friend Dr. David Stevens, the long-time CEO of the Christian Medical and Dental Associations, on the BreakPoint Podcast. When it comes to in-vitro fertilization we agree on much, but not on everything.
Even so, there’s enough, on the basis of Scripture and the defense of human life, that should be clear cut, where there should be no debate.
First, surrogacy and gamete donation are not options. Period. Both deviate from God’s plan for marriage and childbearing by bringing a third party into procreation. As the Center for Bioethics and Culture’s Jennifer Lahl put it on a recent podcast, God said “‘The two shall become one flesh,’ not the three, not the four.”
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Source: Christian Post