The good counselors will listen to each of you without saying a word and then tell you something along the line of: why don’t you cut the crap, grow up, stop acting like selfish children and start acting like adults, you both know what to do, now GO DO IT! Now get out of my office. But obviously some marriage counselors are not that good. They get too involved; they take sides. Some male counselors over compensate and say the wife is always right and the female counselors vice-versa.
From the Daily Mail:
Jo-Anna Francis believes her marriage of three years to former husband Alex would have continued if they didn’t try counselling. She explained why others should think carefully before trying it.
“Marriages can end for many reasons: infidelity, cruelty, or simply the loss of love. But it was marriage counselling that did for mine.
We had sessions for six months after hitting a rough patch, and I’d warn anyone else to think very carefully before going down the same path. Without the counselling, I’m convinced we would eventually have climbed out of the marital hole in which we found ourselves and still be married today.
Instead, it opened Pandora’s box. In front of a stranger, we picked at the fabric of our relationship until it unravelled completely.
Our son, then just four, found himself having to shuttle between two parents. My daughter from a previous relationship, now 22, lost a stepfather who had been in her life since she was 11. Alex and I had been together eight years and married for three — and, within a year of starting the sessions, it was all over.”
If you want a strong, powerful, and blessed marriage and family that stays together, simply pray and trust God and obey the Bible.
Here are some verses that will help you.
Ephesians 5:22-33 – 6:1-4:
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
2 Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;
3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.