How Pastors and Their Families Should Deal With the Weight of Public Expectations by Tyson Lambertson

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Growing up in a rural town, I came to understand the lack of privacy just by picking up the local newspaper. Our local gossip column was called “Out and About.” It kept everyone in the loop of how many ladies made it to bridge club that week and that Ida Hayes was absent due to a cold.

Holidays were always a little more interesting because of folks coming to visit. Every time my aunt came down from Kansas City, it was big news! I remember reading my pastor’s name in this section on a regular basis. He had been “out and about” delivering groceries, meeting for coffee, or praying for the meal at the fire hall fundraiser.

As he was my mentor, I was destined to do the same. As a young 20-something youth pastor, I went to the Assisted Living Center to have coffee and lead a Bible study. Sure enough, I would be in the news. I thought it was cool because I was meeting the expectations of the community and they all knew it.

Unfortunately, it did not occur to me that those expectations would be placed on my wife and my children. It has been a harsh reality-check and weight that I hate they have to bear. It seems like it’s magnified in a small town.

My daughter is a sophomore in high school and has always been very responsible, helpful, and smart. Teachers often tell us that she’s a leader among her peers. However, this past semester has been a challenge of a different kind.

Although she attends a public school, God and his provisions are often referenced in literature class. Every time religion or spiritual topics come up, many students (and even the teacher) look to her for the answers. After all, she is the pastor’s daughter so obviously she would be the expert on the subject.

Not only do they expect her to have the answers, but also to walk the straight and narrow path. She is automatically held to a higher expectation than her peers simply because of who her parents are. Her words, actions, and decisions are constantly being scrutinized. It is like living in a fish bowl!

I imagine that the disciples experienced something similar, as they were Jesus’ closest friends. Not only was Jesus examined tooth and nail, but those who were closest to him were also examined.

Peter was faced with this in Mark 14:70: “Certainly you are one of them, for you are a Galilean.” In other words, “We have been watching you and know that you were with Jesus.” Peter’s response of denial is completely understandable. Living up to the expectations of others is exhausting and unrealistic. Here are a few things that we have done to help alleviate the pressure of the fish bowl effect in our home.

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Source: Christianity Today