LISTEN: Connecting Increases Your Influence in Every Situation, Part 6 (Leadership That Gets the Job Done #24 with Daniel Whyte III)


Daniel Whyte III
Daniel Whyte III

Ultimately, if the job is not done, goals are not reached, and the team does not win, then the leader is not doing his job well, because, as Dr. Lee Robinson or John Maxwell said, “Everything rises and falls on leadership.” The simple purpose of this podcast is to help those who are called to the ministry define what leadership is and how they can effectively lead others to do great things for the glory of God in the world. As the father of modern missions, William Carey said, “Expect great things from God; attempt great things for God.”

Our Bible verse for this episode is Isaiah 55:4 which says, “Behold, I have given him for a witness to the people, a leader and commander to the people.”

Our quote for this episode is from G.K. Chesterton. He said, “If a rhinoceros were to enter this restaurant now, there is no denying he would have great power here. But I should be the first to rise and assure him that he had no authority whatever.”

In this podcast, we are using as our texts three books: Spiritual Leadership: Moving People On To God’s Agenda by Henry and Richard Blackaby; Next Generation Leader, by Andy Stanley; and Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, by John Maxwell.

Our topic today is Part 6 of “Chapter 1: Connecting Increases Your Influence in Every Situation” from Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, by John Maxwell. He continues:

— TO BE EFFECTIVE IN ANY AREA OF LIFE, CONNECT

If you already work at connecting with people, you can learn to become even better at it. And if you haven’t previously tried to connect with others, you will be astounded by how it can change your life.

Cathy Welch, who sings as a member of a trio, wrote to tell me of a visit she made to a nursing home. She said, “In the runaround business of finding someone in the facility who could give us permission to move dining tables in order to set up our equipment, I stood at the closest nurses’ station and quietly waited for someone to ask. While I waited, I noticed a lady in a wheel chair with her back to me, her head hunched over almost in her lap. She sat motionless, her right arm on the counter of the nurses’ station. She seemed completely drawn in to herself. Since we were there to encourage and minister to the seniors in this home, I felt drawn to go around this woman, lean down and ask her how she was. Expecting no response, it took my breath away when she turned her head toward me, lifted her head a few inches and with delight on her face she said, “I’m fine! My name is Abigail and I used to be a school teacher.” I could only imagine how long she had waited for someone to notice her. People are people everywhere and in every situation, wouldn’t you say?”

Yes, people are people. And wherever you find them, they desire to connect with others!

If you are facing connecting challenges, as I was early in my life and career, you can overcome them with connecting choices. You can become more effective by learning to connect with every kind of person in any kind of situation.

I can help you. Because I have learned to connect with others and because I have helped many others to learn how to connect, I feel certain I can also help you. My desire is first to help you learn the principles behind connecting with others, by:

Focusing on others
Expanding your connecting vocabulary beyond just words
Marshalling your energy for connecting
Gaining insight in how great connectors connect.

Then I’ll help you acquire the practical skills of connection:

Finding common ground
Making your communication simple
Capturing people’s interest
Inspiring them, and
Being authentic.

These are things anyone can learn to do.

I believe that almost everything we become and all that we accomplish in life are the result of our interaction with others. If you also believe that to be true, then you know that the ability to connect with others is one of the most important skills a person can learn. It’s something you can begin to improve starting today. This book will help you do it.

— CONNECTING WITH PEOPLE AT ALL LEVELS

Throughout this book, the focus is on connecting with others at three different levels: one-on-one, in a group, and with an audience. At the end of each chapter, there will be questions or assignments to help you apply the ideas in the chapter to your own life in these three areas.

CONNECTING PRINCIPLE: Connecting increases your influence in every situation.

KEY CONCEPT: The smaller the group, the more important it is to connect.

— CONNECTING ONE-ON-ONE

Connecting with people one-on-one is more important than being able to do it in a group or with an audience. Why? Because 80 to 90 percent of all connecting occurs on this level, and this is where you connect with the people who are most important to you.

How good are you at connecting with friends, family, colleagues, and coworkers? To increase your influence one-on-one:

• Talk more about the other person and less about yourself. Prepare two or three questions you can ask someone before a meeting or social gathering.

• Bring something of value, such as a helpful quote, story, book, or CD, to give to someone when you get together.

• At the close of a conversation, ask if there is anything you can do to help them and then follow through. Acts of servanthood have a resounding impact that live longer than words.

— CONNECTING IN A GROUP

To connect with a group, you must take initiative with the people in the group. To do that, do the following:

• Look for ways to compliment people in the group for their ideas and actions.

• Look for ways to add value to people in the group and what they’re doing.

• Don’t take credit when the group succeeds, and don’t cast blame when it fails.

• Find ways to help the group celebrate successes together.

— CONNECTING WITH AN AUDIENCE

One of the best ways to learn how to connect with an audience is to observe communicators who are good at it. Learn from them and adopt what you can into your own style. Meanwhile, here are four things you can do to connect with an audience:

• Let your listeners know that you are excited to be with them.

• Communicate that you desire to add value to them.

• Let them know how they or their organization add value to you. Tell them that your time with them is your highest priority that day.

If the Lord tarries His Coming and we live, we will continue this topic in our next podcast.

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— PRAYER —

Ultimately, if the job is not done, goals are not reached, and the team does not win, then the leader is not doing his job well, because, as Dr. Lee Robinson or John Maxwell said, “Everything rises and falls on leadership.” The simple purpose of this podcast is to help those who are called to the ministry define what leadership is and how they can effectively lead others to do great things for the glory of God in the world. As the father of modern missions, William Carey said, “Expect great things from God; attempt great things for God.”

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If you do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as your Savior, here’s how.

First, accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”

Third, accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” Also, the Bible states in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”

Now this is bad news, but here’s the good news. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

Just believe in your heart that Jesus Christ died for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead by the power of God for you so that you can live eternally with Him. Pray and ask Him to come into your heart today, and He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

God bless.


Daniel Whyte III has spoken in meetings across the United States and in over twenty-five foreign countries. He is the author of over forty books including the Essence Magazine, Dallas Morning News, and Amazon.com national bestseller, Letters to Young Black Men. He is also the president of Gospel Light Society International, a worldwide evangelistic ministry that reaches thousands with the Gospel each week, as well as president of Torch Ministries International, a Christian literature ministry.

He is heard by thousands each week on his radio broadcasts/podcasts, which include: The Prayer Motivator Devotional, The Prayer Motivator Minute, as well as Gospel Light Minute X, the Gospel Light Minute, the Sunday Evening Evangelistic Message, the Prophet Daniel’s Report, the Second Coming Watch Update and the Soul-Winning Motivator, among others.

He holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Theology from Bethany Divinity College, a Bachelor’s degree in Religion from Texas Wesleyan University, a Master’s degree in Religion, a Master of Divinity degree, and a Master of Theology degree from Liberty University’s Rawlings School of Divinity (formerly Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary). He is currently a candidate for the Doctor of Ministry degree.

He has been married to the former Meriqua Althea Dixon, of Christiana, Jamaica since 1987. God has blessed their union with seven children.