This podcast will help you get ready to face the inevitable unpleasant things that will happen in your life — things like trouble, suffering, sickness, and death — the death of people you love and your own death. Trouble, suffering, and death are common threads that run throughout all of humanity. They are inescapable. You will never meet a person who has not, is not, or will not experience these terrible things in life. Yet, we attempt to hide from these inevitabilities, to pretend they don’t exist or that they won’t happen to us. Our world is filled with news of people dying, children suffering, entire government systems and organizations enduring trouble and turmoil, but we tend to see these as things that only happen to “other people” and never to us. Trouble, suffering, and death come equally to all people, of all races, from every socio-economic status, of every religion, in every country of the world. It makes us all equal. This podcast will show you how to accept these realities of life, and not just cope, but face trouble, suffering, and death in your own life and in the world with confidence, courage, class, and most of all, with faith, hope, and charity.
The Bible says in Romans 6:16: “Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?”
The featured quote for this episode is from Daniel Keyes. He said, “I am afraid. Not of life, or death, or nothingness, but of wasting it as if I had never been.”
Our topic for today is titled “Caring for the Dying, Part 6” from the book, “The Art of Dying: Living Fully into the Life to Come” by Rob Moll. And, I want to remind you to take advantage of our special offer. If you enjoy this podcast, please feel free to purchase a copy of this book — “The Art of Dying” by Rob Moll. It is available on our website for just $20.
— Being Present
We live in an impossibly busy society. Our economy forces us to be transient people as jobs, or the pursuit of good ones, often require us to live great distances from the people we love. Maintaining long-term relationships is already difficult. No matter how much we love and care for a person, often it is simply too easy to neglect the work that relationships require. Then, when a loved one receives the diagnosis of a terminal illness, our discomfort with dying puts up an additional barrier to achieving completeness in a relationship that will soon end. Even when our relationships are healthy, the pain of loss can be too much to bear. When relationships are strained, it can be painfully difficult to talk about a terminal illness or say the necessary words.
For some time after my Aunt Eileen died, I wondered what I should have done, how I should have behaved as my aunt lay dying in her bedroom. The director of the local hospice program relieved my concern when she told me there was no need to feel guilty for not knowing what to do.
“You had visited her,” Nancy Capocy told me, “and you went there when she was dying and you just stood there. But you did it. Your presence is what you needed to do. The fact that you went there. Sometimes there isn’t anything to do, any task to do. Sometimes our presence is doing more than anything else that could be done. Presence,” she said, “is a very powerful, powerful thing.”
Our busy lives and the added work of caring for a dying person make it difficult. Our fear of dying creates discomfort being with someone facing such difficult circumstances. All these obstacles make it difficult, even when we are able to visit, to have a meaningful presence with someone on his or her deathbed. Yet Dallas Willard, author of The Divine Conspiracy and several other books on spiritual formation, says that it is no small thing to be truly present with someone. “What we want to do is to carry with us at all times a consciousness that we are spiritual beings with an eternal destiny in God’s universe,” Willard told me. This consciousness, or walking in the Spirit, as the New Testament says, gives us a peacefulness wherever we are, whatever we are doing.
This spiritual sensitivity is important as we spend time with those who are making a transition of spirit. “When we deal with people who are on the verge of death, or their loved ones,” says Willard, who has also worked as a pastor, “we want to bring that same spirit of peace into their lives.” Sometimes you can’t say much. But a spiritual presence, he says, can help a person come to grips with what is happening to them. “I think that reassures them of the substantiality of their soul, to put it in grandiose language,” Willard says. “They are received, and that makes a difference.”
“The spirit of peace and joy that you carry in yourself, you can extend that to them.” This presence, Willard says, is not a formula. It is not a matter of saying certain words. “We really need to understand what it is like to be with a person and not have to manage that,” he says, “how to look into their eyes and listen to them.”
“That’s the greatest blessing you can give to people, to be with them in those kinds of situations and to avoid the temptation to try to explain it or smooth it out. Just let it be,” Willard counsels, “be with them.”
This sort of caregiving, the care of spiritual presence, comes from family or others who have a personal relationship with the dying person. In the typical hospital or medical situation, say hospice nurses Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelly, “relatives and friends become spectators watching something occur — not in a continuous stream of emotions and experiences from which to learn, but in awkward chunks of time.” Whether dying occurs in a hospital bed or at home, as spiritual caregivers we must be ready to use those opportunities.
If the Lord tarries His Coming and we live, we will continue this topic in our next podcast.
Let’s Pray —
I am your host, Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society International. This podcast will help you get ready to face the inevitable unpleasant things that will happen in your life — things like trouble, suffering, sickness, and death — the death of people you love and your own death. Trouble, suffering, and death are common threads that run throughout all of humanity. They are inescapable. You will never meet a person who has not, is not, or will not experience these terrible things in life. Yet, we attempt to hide from these inevitabilities, to pretend they don’t exist or that they won’t happen to us. Our world is filled with news of people dying, children suffering, entire government systems and organizations enduring trouble and turmoil, but we tend to see these as things that only happen to “other people” and never to us. Trouble, suffering, and death come equally to all people, of all races, from every socio-economic status, of every religion, in every country of the world. It makes us all equal. This podcast will show you how to accept these realities of life, and not just cope, but face trouble, suffering, and death in your own life and in the world with confidence, courage, class, and most of all, with faith, hope, and charity.
Dear friend, please understand that after you die, you will be ushered into one of two places to spend eternity, Heaven or Hell. Here’s how you can be sure that you will not go to hell and suffer eternal damnation forever and rather have a home in Heaven when you die. The Bible says, ”Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and thou shalt be saved.” Here’s how you can be saved from sin and hell and have a home in Heaven when you die in more detail.
1. Accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 7:20: “For there is not a just man upon earth that doeth good, and sinneth not.” Romans 3:23 reads: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.” In fact, I am the chief of sinners, so don’t think that you’re alone.
2. Accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”
3. Accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” The Bible says in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”
4. Accept the fact that you cannot do anything to save yourself! The Bible states in Ephesians 2: 8, 9: “For by grace are ye saved through faith: and that not of yourselves: it is a gift of God. Not of works, lest any man should boast.”
5. Accept the fact that God loves you more than you love yourself, and that He wants to save you from hell. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16, “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
6. With these facts in mind, please repent of your sins, believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and pray and ask Him to come into your heart and save you this very moment. The Bible states in the book of Romans 10:9, 13: “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.”
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
Dear friend, if you are willing to believe on the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation, please pray with me this simple prayer: Heavenly Father, I realize that I am a sinner and that I have done some bad things in my life. For Jesus Christ sake, please forgive me of my sins. I now believe with all of my heart that Jesus Christ died for me, was buried, and rose again. Lord Jesus, please come into my heart and save my soul and change my life today. Amen.
If you believed in your heart that Jesus Christ died on the cross, was buried, and rose again, allow me to say, congratulations on doing the most important thing in life and that is accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour! For more information to help you grow in your newfound faith in Christ, go to Gospel Light Society.com and read “What To Do After You Enter Through the Door”. Jesus Christ said in John 10:9, “I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture.”
Daniel Whyte III has spoken in meetings across the United States and in over twenty-five foreign countries. He is the author of over forty books including the Essence Magazine, Dallas Morning News, and Amazon.com national bestseller, Letters to Young Black Men. He is also the president of Gospel Light Society International, a worldwide evangelistic ministry that reaches thousands with the Gospel each week, as well as president of Torch Ministries International, a Christian literature ministry.
He is heard by thousands each week on his radio broadcasts/podcasts, which include: The Prayer Motivator Devotional, The Prayer Motivator Minute, as well as Gospel Light Minute X, the Gospel Light Minute, the Sunday Evening Evangelistic Message, the Prophet Daniel’s Report, the Second Coming Watch Update and the Soul-Winning Motivator, among others.
He holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Theology from Bethany Divinity College, a Bachelor’s degree in Religion from Texas Wesleyan University, a Master’s degree in Religion, a Master of Divinity degree, and a Master of Theology degree from Liberty University’s Rawlings School of Divinity (formerly Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary). He is currently a candidate for the Doctor of Ministry degree.
He has been married to the former Meriqua Althea Dixon, of Christiana, Jamaica since 1987. God has blessed their union with seven children.