LISTEN: The Problem of Death in Your Life, Part 3 (God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #38 with Daniel Whyte III)


Daniel Whyte III
Daniel Whyte III

Our passage from the Word of God today is Ecclesiastes 12:7. It reads, “Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it.”

Allow me to share with you some interesting points on this passage from Matthew Henry’s Commentary:

He shows how great a change death will make with us, which will be either the prevention or the period of the miseries of old age. Nothing else will keep them off, nor any thing else cure them. “Therefore remember thy Creator in the days of thy youth, because death is certainly before thee, perhaps it is very near thee, and it is a serious thing to die, and thou shouldst feel concerned with the utmost care and diligence to prepare for it.”

Death will fix us in an unchangeable state: Man shall then go to his long home, and all these infirmities and decays of age are harbingers of and advances towards that awful remove. At death man goes from this world and all the employments and enjoyments of it. He has gone for good and all, as to his present state. He has gone home, for here he was a stranger and pilgrim; both soul and body go to the place whence they came. He has gone to his rest, to the place where he is to fix. He has gone to his home, to the house of his world (so some), for this world is not his. He has gone to his long home, for the days of his lying in the grave will be many. He has gone to his house of eternity, not only to his house whence he shall never return to this world, but to the house where he must be for ever. This should make us willing to die, that, at death, we must go home; and why should we not long to go to our Father’s house? And this should quicken us to get ready to die, that we must then go to our long home, to an everlasting habitation.

Our quote for today is from C.S. Lewis. He said, “It is hard to have patience with people who say “There is no death” or “Death doesn’t matter.” There is death. And whatever it is, matters. And whatever happens has consequences, and it and they are irrevocable and irreversible. You might as well say that birth doesn’t matter.”

Our problem today is “The Problem of Death in Your Life” (part 3) from the book, “The Guide to Biblical Counseling” by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Ron Hawkins. And, I want to remind you to take advantage of our special offer. If this podcast has been a help and blessing to you, please feel free to purchase a copy of this book — “The Guide to Biblical Counseling” by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Ron Hawkins. It is available on our website for just $30. You can make your purchase today at ordainedchaplainsusa.org.

Let’s discuss some questions to consider asking yourself or someone you know who is struggling with his or her own mortality or that of a loved one:

Don’t be surprised by the variety of responses people have to the death of a loved one. People may do bizarre things in the moments after hearing of a death. It is common for a person to say things like, “Why not me instead?” or “I think I caused it.” These are not necessarily true confessions; they are the cries of a breaking heart.

Don’t rush the grieving process. The anguish is a necessary part of recovery.

Don’t tell the person how to feel. Your presence as a loving and attentive listener is your greatest gift to the person who is overwhelmed by grief.

RULE OUTS

1. Are you having any physical symptoms as a result of this death? (Be aware of signs of physical distress; the bereaved person may need medical attention.)

2. Are you feeling increasingly depressed and suicidal? Is the grief beginning to subside? (After a certain amount of time, the grief should be lessening. There will always be pain, but if the person is not improving over the course of several weeks, other intervention may be needed.)

QUESTIONS IMMEDIATELY AFTER A DEATH

1. Who has died and how? Were you present? (Ask the bereaved to share with you what happened. Talking about the experience is cathartic and will help the bereaved person come to terms with the situation.)

2. Where are other family members located? (What kind of a support system exists for helping the person through the experience of loss?)

3. If the deceased had children, where are they? (Are there any other individuals who will need help dealing with the loss of the deceased?)

4. Besides the obvious shock and pain, what else are you feeling right now? (Probe for feelings like guilt, anger, and fear. Try to identify the source of the feelings—and then make a mental note to talk further about it at a later time.)

QUESTIONS TO HELP THE GRIEVING PERSON

1. What are you favorite memories about this person?

2. What did you like best about him [her[?

3. What were his [her] best qualities? What were some things that bothered or irritated you? (This helps the person realize that the deceased person was not perfect.)

4. When do you miss this person the most—morning or evening?

5. To whom do you talk when you think about this person?

6. What do you need from the person you’re talking to that will help with your grief?

7. Do you still cry when you think of this person?

8. In what ways is your life better for having known this person?

9. In what positive ways can you keep alive the good memories and the joy of having known this person?

In our next broadcast, we will continue looking at the problem of Death in your life.

—–PRAYER—–

Now, if you are listening today, and you do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as your Saviour, allow me to show you how.

First, accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”

Third, accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” Also, the Bible states in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and
idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”

Now this is bad news, but here’s the good news. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Just believe in your heart that Jesus Christ died for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead by the power of God for you so that you can live eternally with Him. Pray and ask Him to come into your heart today, and He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

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Until next time, my friend remember that God has a solution to all of your problems.


Daniel Whyte III has spoken in meetings across the United States and in over twenty-five foreign countries. He is the author of over forty books including the Essence Magazine, Dallas Morning News, and Amazon.com national bestseller, Letters to Young Black Men. He is also the president of Gospel Light Society International, a worldwide evangelistic ministry that reaches thousands with the Gospel each week, as well as president of Torch Ministries International, a Christian literature ministry.

He is heard by thousands each week on his radio broadcasts/podcasts, which include: The Prayer Motivator Devotional, The Prayer Motivator Minute, as well as Gospel Light Minute X, the Gospel Light Minute, the Sunday Evening Evangelistic Message, the Prophet Daniel’s Report, the Second Coming Watch Update and the Soul-Winning Motivator, among others.

He holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Theology from Bethany Divinity College, a Bachelor’s degree in Religion from Texas Wesleyan University, a Master’s degree in Religion, a Master of Divinity degree, and a Master of Theology degree from Liberty University’s Rawlings School of Divinity (formerly Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary). He is currently a candidate for the Doctor of Ministry degree.

He has been married to the former Meriqua Althea Dixon, of Christiana, Jamaica since 1987. God has blessed their union with seven children.