Why Are Christians Divided Over Homosexual Marriage?

Pastor Shane Idleman
Pastor Shane Idleman

With best-selling Christian authors and popular worship leaders showing support for gay-marriage, many are left baffled and confused.

These points may help us better understand the great divide:

1. The definition of love is misunderstood.

To truly “love” others we must first love God and His truth — that’s the foundation (cf. Matthew 22:36-40).

Does loving someone mean we approve of their lifestyle? Or does it mean that we love them enough to share the truth? If a person is more worried about being liked than being truthful, do they really love those caught in sin more than those who are willing to speak the truth in love?

The answer is obvious: Authentic Christians love the truth and others to the degree that they are willing to risk the consequences of confrontation in order to help others. This is genuine love, not hatred. The greatest gift LGBT parents can give to their children is love and truth rather than reinforcing a destructive lifestyle.

How can one person review Bible verses dealing with this topic and come to the conclusion that gay marriage is biblical while others come to the opposite conclusion? It’s very simple: The first group looks through the lens of opinion; the second group through the lens of genuine love and absolute truth.

Dr. Michael Brown recently remarked, “One reason people support gay-marriage is because their gay friends are really nice and some seem to be committed Christians. They say their spiritual lives came alive when they realized they could be gay and Christian at the same time.”

I believe that they came alive because someone validated their lifestyle. This is no different than people who say they feel alive and renewed even though they are caught in adultery. Sin feels good for a season — that’s the deception. But these seasons of sexual fulfillment are often short lived — “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows” (Galatians 6:7).

True freedom comes from true repentance.

2. Is the Bible clear or vague?

Recent polls show that less than 50% of believers even read their Bible, let alone practice it. And, as we know, to read truth without practicing it, leads to deception … No wonder there’s confusion. Additionally, many of the proponents are embracing the views of liberal authors. They value the words of Matthew Vines more than the gospel of Matthew.

When Christians believe that God has given them the authority to change truth in order to keep it relevant, they are departing from God. Although disheartening, this trend is not surprising.

The apostle Paul warned centuries ago: “For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine [God’s Word], but according to their own desires … they will turn their ears away from the truth, and be turned aside to fables” (2 Timothy 4:3-4).

If this isn’t what we see today, I don’t know what is.

The Bible encourages us to be peacemakers but not religious negotiators. In our zeal to reach others, we often compromise the message because we want to be liked rather than truthful. Surprisingly, it was “Christians” who came against my article regarding what the Bible says about gay-marriage and homosexuality. It can be viewed here.

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SOURCE: The Christian Post
Shane Idleman is the founder and lead pastor of Westside Christian Fellowship in Lancaster, California, just North of Los Angeles. Shane’s sermons, articles, books, and radio program can all be found at shaneidleman.com or wcfav.org. Follow him on Facebook at: facebook.com/confusedchurch.