LISTEN: Doing Marriage God’s Way, Part 12 — Ephesians 5:28-33 (Revive the Family, Revive the Church, Awaken the Nation, O Lord #36 with Daniel Whyte III)

A series of homilies on Ephesians 5 & 6

A homily is “a short talk on a religious or moral topic; a usually short sermon; a lecture or discourse on or of a biblical theme.”

Daniel Whyte III
Daniel Whyte III

I am sharing a verse-by-verse series of short messages on Ephesians 5 & 6 (as well as other passages of Scripture) specifically targeted at reviving families and encouraging and exhorting husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, and children to do what God has commanded them to do, for if the church is to be revived and the country is to be awakened, the family must be revived first.

Ephesians 5:28-33:

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.


Martin Lloyd-Jones said, “The supreme thing always is to consider our Lord Jesus Christ. If a husband and wife are together considering Him, you need have no worry about their relationship to each other.”

Leonard Ravenhill said, “Sodom, which had no Bible, no preachers, no tracts, no prayer meetings, no churches, perished. How then will America and England be spared from the wrath of the Almighty, think you? We have millions of Bibles, scores of thousands of churches, endless preachers—and yet what sin!”

We come to the final statement in Paul’s discourse on marriage. He begins with the word “nevertheless.” Why is that word there? Well, all throughout this passage, Paul has been talking about the union of Christ and the Church along with the union of a husband and wife. Some might try to take this passage and say Paul is primarily talking about Christ and the Church and that he is not really teaching on marriage.

Well, Paul says, ‘Nevertheless — in spite of all that I have said about how this applies to Christ and the church — also it is important to note: let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.’ That is his closing argument — his conclusion about this matter.

To further show that he is not just talking about Christ and the Church here, he says, “Let every one of you in particular,” meaning each and every one of you individually. There is only one Christ and one Church, so He is not talking about either here. He is talking to the individual Christian husbands in the Church. To them, he says, “let every one of you so love his wife even as himself.” This not only means that husbands should love their wives as they love themselves, but should love their wives because loving their wives means loving themselves since they are one.

Then, Paul has a closing statement for Christian wives — “and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” The word reverence means to respect or to have a healthy respect for an authority figure. The Amplified Bible provides this extended definition of what it means for a wife to reverence her husband — it means “that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly.”

Husbands and wives who fulfill their roles according to the Scriptures will be blessed by God and will have genuine happiness in their homes.

Let’s pray.

Now, if you do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as Savior, please keep in mind that the Bible says, “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and thou shalt be saved.” Just pray and ask Him to come into your heart and He will. I will be sharing more on the matter of salvation in the next segment of our service which starts in about 5 minutes.

Revive the Family Prayer List


— Lanitra in Kentucky
help her as a single mom to raise her 3 children; provide financially for their bills and other household needs

— Edmund in Zielonka, Poland
help Edmund; his wife, Dorothy; their daughter, Ann; and their sons, Peter and Daniel, to serve You
give wisdom for learning in school to Daniel
provide work for Edmund and Dorothy
help Peter to find and follow Your direction for his life
bless Ann with a husband

— Freddie in Fairbanks, Alaska
help him to deal with his totally rebellious children

— Jimmie in Jacksonville, Florida
strengthen him and his family, help them to do right

— Anne Avei
help her to study your Word well



Members of the Executive Committee of the Southern Baptist Convention

Michael W. Routt of Colorado
David A. Hall of Washington D.C.
Tom Biles of Florida
Adam Hollingsworth of Florida
Timothy D. Maynard of Florida
James A. Ray of Florida
Stephen N. Rummage of Florida
Kenneth W. Alford of Georgia
Bill Prince of Georgia
Wayne Robertson of Georgia




Sanford D. Bishop
Diane Black
Marsha Blackburn
Rod Blum
Earl Blumenauer
Suzanne Bonamici
Madeleine Z. Bordallo
Mike Bost
Charles Boustany
Brendan F. Boyle

Daniel Whyte III has spoken in meetings across the United States and in over twenty-five foreign countries. He is the author of over forty books. He is also the president of Gospel Light Society International, a worldwide evangelistic ministry that reaches thousands with the Gospel each week, as well as president of Torch Ministries International, a Christian literature ministry which publishes a monthly magazine called The Torch Leader. He is heard by thousands each week on his radio broadcasts/podcasts, which include: The Prayer Motivator Devotional, The Prayer Motivator Minute, as well as Gospel Light Minute X, the Gospel Light Minute, the Sunday Evening Evangelistic Message, the Prophet Daniel’s Report, the Second Coming Watch Update and the Soul-Winning Motivator, among others. He holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Theology from Bethany Divinity College, a Bachelor’s degree in Religion from Texas Wesleyan University, a Master’s degree in Religion, a Master of Divinity degree, and a Master of Theology degree from Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary. He has been married to the former Meriqua Althea Dixon, of Christiana, Jamaica for over twenty-seven years. God has blessed their union with seven children. Find out more at Follow Daniel Whyte III on Twitter @prophetdaniel3 or on Facebook.