LISTEN: Doing Marriage God’s Way, Part 9 — Ephesians 5:28-30 (Revive the Family, Revive the Church, Awaken the Nation, O Lord #33 with Daniel Whyte III)

A series of homilies on Ephesians 5 & 6

A homily is “a short talk on a religious or moral topic; a usually short sermon; a lecture or discourse on or of a biblical theme.”

Daniel Whyte III
Daniel Whyte III

I am sharing a verse-by-verse series of short messages on Ephesians 5 & 6 (as well as other passages of Scripture) specifically targeted at reviving families and encouraging and exhorting husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, and children to do what God has commanded them to do, for if the church is to be revived and the country is to be awakened, the family must be revived first.

Ephesians 5:22-30:

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

Ephesians 5:28-30: “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.”

Albert Barnes said, “These Scriptures make use of language which is stronger than that employed to describe any other connection; and there is no union of affection so powerful as that which binds the Christian to the Saviour. So strong is it, that he is willing for it to forsake father, mother, and home; to leave his country, and to abandon his possessions; to go to distant lands and dwell among barbarians to make the Redeemer known; or to go to the cross or the stake from simple love to the Saviour. Account for it as people may, there has been manifested on earth nowhere else so strong an attachment as that which binds the Christian to the cross. It is stronger love that that which a man has for his own flesh and bones; for it makes him willing that his flesh should be consumed by fire, or his bones broken on the wheel rather than deny him.”

Leonard Ravenhill said, “Do not we rest in our day too much on the arm of flesh? Cannot the same wonders be done now as of old? Do not the eyes of the Lord still run to and fro throughout the whole earth to show Himself strong on behalf of those who put their trust in Him? Oh, that God would give me more practical faith in Him! Where is now the Lord God of Elijah? He is waiting for Elijah to call on Him.”

As Paul begins to close this passage, he emphasizes the union of Christ and the church as it relates to the union of the husband and the wife. Speaking of Christ, he says, “We are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.” Here he is speaking to both the husband and the wife, assuming that both are Christians, then they are both members of the body of Christ. They are an integral part of the church. They make up the flesh and bone of the Saviour in a union that will never be torn apart.

Just as Christ and His church are tightly bound together, so ought a husband and wife to be bound together. They should see themselves as one — unable (and unwilling) to do without the other until God calls one of them Home.

Part of the problem in our society today is that people do not take marriage as seriously as they used to. Some people, before they get married, get a contract drawn up delineating who gets what amount of their assets if they get a divorce. How can you be serious about your marriage succeeding if you are already planning for it to fail? Some people go into marriage not understanding what it means to be one. Yes, you might still have your own interests and your own goals, but if those interests and goals drive you apart then something is wrong. God will never give two of His children whom He puts together in marriage individual purposes which cause division and separation in the marriage. Here again for this oneness in marriage to work the way God intended, someone has to be the head and someone has to submit both in mutual love and respect. To try to do it in any other way is foolishness and ignorance.

Revive the Family Prayer List


— Annie in Vanuatu, South Pacific
help her two sons, Solomon and Kila, to find salvation and have Your will to be done in their lives

— Zenani in Canada
give her healing from a divorce, financial stability, freedom from debts and wisdom in financial management
provide a safe home for her and her son and a safe day care for her son

— NaTash’a in Richmond, Virginia
help her to get her life right with You and have a better relationship with You
show her how to get back on the right track

— Dottie in New Orleans, Louisiana
give her complete healing
bless her daughter’s finances and her grandchildren as they go to summer school
give her husband the confidence he needs in dealing with Mark

— Phil
provide him with a woman companion for a loving relationship



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Rick Hancock of Maryland-Delaware
Tommy Green of Florida
J. Robert White of Georgia




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Daniel Whyte III has spoken in meetings across the United States and in over twenty-five foreign countries. He is the author of over forty books. He is also the president of Gospel Light Society International, a worldwide evangelistic ministry that reaches thousands with the Gospel each week, as well as president of Torch Ministries International, a Christian literature ministry which publishes a monthly magazine called The Torch Leader. He is heard by thousands each week on his radio broadcasts/podcasts, which include: The Prayer Motivator Devotional, The Prayer Motivator Minute, as well as Gospel Light Minute X, the Gospel Light Minute, the Sunday Evening Evangelistic Message, the Prophet Daniel’s Report, the Second Coming Watch Update and the Soul-Winning Motivator, among others. He holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Theology from Bethany Divinity College, a Bachelor’s degree in Religion from Texas Wesleyan University, a Master’s degree in Religion, a Master of Divinity degree, and a Master of Theology degree from Liberty University School of Divinity. He has been married to the former Meriqua Althea Dixon, of Christiana, Jamaica for over twenty-seven years. God has blessed their union with seven children. Find out more at Follow Daniel Whyte III on Twitter @prophetdaniel3 or on Facebook.