LISTEN: Doing Marriage God’s Way, Part 3 — Ephesians 5:22-24 (Revive the Family, Revive the Church, Awaken the Nation, O Lord #27 with Daniel Whyte III)

A series of homilies on Ephesians 5 & 6

A homily is “a short talk on a religious or moral topic; a usually short sermon; a lecture or discourse on or of a biblical theme.”

Daniel Whyte III
Daniel Whyte III

I am sharing a verse-by-verse series of short messages on Ephesians 5 & 6 (as well as other passages of Scripture) specifically targeted at reviving families and encouraging and exhorting husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, and children to do what God has commanded them to do, for if the church is to be revived and the country is to be awakened, the family must be revived first.

Ephesians 5:22-24:

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.


I’m going to say something very controversial, that some of my Christian friends are not going to like, but I believe the reason there has been such an explosive interest in 50 Shades of Grey in women in our society at large and even in the church is because there is a God-given desire in women to submit to a man — to have a man who is in control. And when that desire is not fulfilled Biblically because the emasculated or effeminate men refuse to be that kind of man or don’t know how to be that kind of man, it comes out in the perverted way of 50 Shades of Grey. To show you what I mean, many years ago, before I met my wife Meriqua, I had a girlfriend, and just out of the blue one day, she said, “This is going to sound strange, but I like being here with you because you don’t let me have my way.” So men ought to lead as God has designed them to do and women ought to just go on and do what God put in them to do and life would be better for the entire family.

Joyce Rogers, the wife of one of God’s best preachers Adrian Rogers, said, “To prove submission is a wonderful concept, Jesus became the ultimate illustration of its validity. Although He was co-equal and co-eternal with the Father, He was completely submissive to the Father’s will.” Just as wives are co-equal with their husbands in value and spiritual worth, God desires that a wife would willingly submit herself to her husband.

Leonard Ravenhill said, “Where, oh, where are the eternity-conscious believers? Where are the souls white-hot for God because they fear His holy name and presence and so live with eternity’s values in view?”

The verse that we are looking at today serves to confirm, underline, and highlight all that has already been said. It is basically a summary of the wife’s role.

“Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”

In the Bible, the roles of submission are never reversed. Jesus never submits to the church. Masters are never told to submit to their servants and husbands are never told to submit to their wives. The order of authority that God has instituted since the beginning remains intact.

Just as the church is always subject to Christ, so the wife must always be subject to her husband. A wife may not always feel like doing this, but she must make up her mind to choose to do this by the grace of God and by the power of the Holy Spirit if she wants to have peace, harmony and order in her household with her husband and children. Just as the church fulfills its mission by submitting to and obeying Christ, the wife fulfills her duty to her God and to her husband by submitting to and obeying her husband in “everything”. And everything means everything. What this means ladies is that once you decide to marry a man, according to God’s Word, he gets the last word on major decisions in your relationship and in the family. And if you don’t agree with him, God wants you to submit to him anyway. If your husband is wrong, it is your job to pray for him and let God deal with him and lead, guide and direct him. This does not mean that you cannot help your husband by giving him advice on what needs to be done, but it does mean that once he has made his decision, you need to submit to his leadership in all things and not try to usurp and undermine his authority with pride, stubbornness, and rebelliousness which the Bible says is as the sin of witchcraft.

Two of the greatest things that have happened to me in life are: (1) when I got saved by trusting Jesus Christ as my Saviour; and (2) when I was taught by God’s chastisement to submit to and obey His will and His Word.

Contrary to what you may think Christian ladies, if you cheerfully and willingly submit to your husband and you do not have a track record of lying to your husband about anything, your husband will safely trust in you, have confidence in you and will listen to your advice and will let you make most decisions on your own without consulting him at all. Christian women can truly have the best of both worlds if they would just obey God’s Word in this matter.

John Gill said, “The wife has respect to all her husband’s commands, and esteems all his precepts; and yields a cheerful, voluntary, sincere, and hearty obedience to them.”

Let’s pray.

Revive the Family Prayer List


— Dottie in Louisiana
for grace, mercy, and peace in her life; for her to have a good relationship with her daughters and grandchildren; for her grandson to be healed of his speech impediment

— Audrey in Archer, FL
for her grandson, Rashad, to find a good job so that he can take care of his wife and baby and for his salvation

— John & Scovia in Uganda
money to pay for their house

— Betty in Houston, TX
give her hope after the death of her husband and her son; help her to wait on You and trust in You, provide for her needs

— Brenda in Bardstown, KY
for healing of a drug addiction; for her 25-year-old daughter who is having her 6th child (4 of whom Brenda has custody of); for protection and guidance.



Statewide Leaders of the National Baptist Convention

James Thrower of Arkansas
Kerry W. Tillman of Texas
Darrell White of Virginia
Charles W. Whittlow of Oklahoma
Robert T. Wilson of Wisconsin
Calvin W. Woods, Sr., of Alabama




David Brat
David N. Cicilline
David Jolly
David Joyce
David McKinley
David Price
David Rouzer
David Schweikert
David Scott
David Trott

Daniel Whyte III has spoken in meetings across the United States and in over twenty-five foreign countries. He is the author of over forty books. He is also the president of Gospel Light Society International, a worldwide evangelistic ministry that reaches thousands with the Gospel each week, as well as president of Torch Ministries International, a Christian literature ministry which publishes a monthly magazine called The Torch Leader. He is heard by thousands each week on his radio broadcasts/podcasts, which include: The Prayer Motivator Devotional, The Prayer Motivator Minute, as well as Gospel Light Minute X, the Gospel Light Minute, the Sunday Evening Evangelistic Message, the Prophet Daniel’s Report, the Second Coming Watch Update and the Soul-Winning Motivator, among others. He holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Theology from Bethany Divinity College, a Bachelor’s degree in Religion from Texas Wesleyan University, a Master’s degree in Religion, a Master of Divinity degree, and a Master of Theology degree from Liberty University School of Divinity. He has been married to the former Meriqua Althea Dixon, of Christiana, Jamaica for over twenty-seven years. God has blessed their union with seven children. Find out more at Follow Daniel Whyte III on Twitter @prophetdaniel3 or on Facebook.