How to Stand for Your Marriage Even If Your Spouse Is Gone


You’ve finally found it.

If you are looking for what to do right now to help you continue standing for your marriage:

  • even when you’ve lost all hope,
  • even when your spouse is gone,
  • even when everyone else is telling you to give up

Then you’ve found it.

This isn’t an all-inclusive list, but it’s pretty close.

Furthermore, this list wasn’t written by me. This list was not written by someone who overcame marriage crisis in the past. This was written by someone who is currently in the middle of fighting for her marriage, even though her spouse is gone.

Maybe your spouse is gone physically. Maybe your spouse is gone emotionally. It doesn’t matter, you fight for your marriage the same way.

This comes from someone fighting on the frontlines now. 

Here are 17 Ways to Stand for Your Marriage even When Your Spouse is Gone

1. It doesn’t always take two to save a marriage.

One may be out the door into the arms of another. It doesn’t mean the end. Focus on you. Change you. Get your groove back.

Work on your PIES (improving Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally, Spiritually).

2. Understand feelings are fickle.

He/she says he/she doesn’t love you anymore (or loves you but isn’t in love with you).Just because he/she says that now, that doesn’t mean it will remain the same. Stand anyway and see #1.

3. You cannot control ANYONE but you.

He/she will make his/her own decisions, and there is nothing you can do to stop it. No amount of manipulation will stop it. Work on YOU. See #1.

4. You WILL get through this.

If you are a Christian, lean into Jesus and allow him to sustain you.

5. Divorce doesn’t necessarily mean the end.

There are many restoration stories that confirm this. If a divorce happens and you know you are meant to keep standing, then keep standing.

6. Get legal advice.

It does not mean you have to file, it does not mean it will end in divorce. Its wisdom to seek help in protecting you and any children.

7. Read, read, read the articles at

Listen to the podcasts on Get as much knowledge as possible on what is happening and why.

8. Recognize that your emotions are real and legitimate.

Recognize that acting out of those emotions could very well be a death sentence for your marriage. It’s HARD, but making decisions above your emotions is paramount.You might not be able to control what you feel, but you CAN control how to not let them rule you.

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SOURCE: Marriage Helper