Why Moms Should Consider Finding a Mentor for Their Daughter


Some of you might have grown up hearing Dick Clark play songs on American Bandstand, asking for ratings from eager teens. If it was a song with a strong beat, it rated high. My mom would get a high mother rating because she provided a beat for my life I could “dance to.” The resounding mantras of my mother’s words echo in my heart:

  • Take the high road.
  • Be part of the solution.
  • Be a loyal friend.
  • Search for God until you find Him.
  • Celebrate all you can in life because life can be traumatic. Look for times and ways to mark the moments that matter.

As I look back, I recognize that my mom tried her best to mark my important moments. However it was her character that served as the musical score to my heart. As the maestro of your daughter’s life, the traits your daughter needs to see in you are:





As you live these qualities out, your daughter learns to live out God’s song for her. In addition, a wise mom will select a mentor(s) who echoes that song , backs up your words and acts as a role model of a life well-lived before your daughter. So what are the traits of a good mentor?

As you and your daughter consider what makes a good mentor, you may identify women who you already recognize as mentors in your own life or your daughter’s. For your daughter it may be a teacher, coach, youth leader, close friend, or family member (such as an older cousin or aunt). If you don’t see a mentor in your daughter’s life at this present time, we encourage you to begin praying that God will bring one into her life.

Releasing our daughters into the care of a mentor honors her highly. It means we (mothers) trust and respect this woman and are secure in the knowledge that she is like-minded and will uphold our standards of godliness and integrity.

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Source: Crosswalk | Pam Farrel, Author, Raising a Modern Day Princess