Are You the Kind of Person You Want to Be Friends With?

Joyce Meyer
Joyce Meyer

How Your Thoughts, Words and Attitudes Affect Your Relationships and the World Around You

I spent many years as a very negative person. I have teasingly said that if I thought two positive thoughts in a row my brain got into a cramp!

During those years in my life I was lonely and had very few friends. I had no idea why people didn’t like me, but I now know that my sour attitude was one of the reasons.

Did you know your thoughts and attitudes have a tremendous impact on those around you and even affect your friendships? A positive attitude attracts friends whereas someone who is negative may find themselves isolated and alone. Like the old saying goes, “You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar.”

My husband, Dave, has always been a very positive person and a good influence on me in this area. Early in our marriage, I got irritated because he was always cheery and hopeful when life seemed so dark and dreary to me. Although it was frustrating at the time, eventually his behavior caused me to want to change so I could be more positive and enjoy life too.

However, the greatest change came as a result of my relationship with God and studying His Word. Romans 12:2 literally changed my life.

It says, “Do not be conformed to this world (this age), (fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs). But be transformed (changed) by the (entire) renewal of your mind ….”

Becoming a positive person begins with filling your mind with God’s Word and learning to think like He thinks …then choosing to allow these faith-filled thoughts to flow through your words and attitudes to the people around you.

I believe many people who think and speak negatively aren’t even aware of how it affects their relationships. Really, the only people who enjoy a negative person are those who are also negative!

Anyone who is happy, or wants to be happy, quickly discovers that being with a negative, sour person doesn’t bring them joy.

So, let me ask you: Are you the kind of person who others want to be friends with? Are you the kind of person you want to be friends with?

I want to be the kind of person that people are glad to know and call their friend. I want others to be glad when they run into me at the coffee shop and have a few minutes to chat. When I am at a gathering of people, I would like to be sought out by others because they like my attitude and being with me adds to their joy.

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SOURCE: The Christian Post
Joyce Meyer is a New York Times bestselling author and founder of Joyce Meyer Ministries, Inc. She has authored more than 90 books, including Battlefield of the Mind and Do Yourself a Favor…Forgive (Hachette). She hosts the Enjoying Everyday Life radio and TV programs, which air on hundreds of stations worldwide. For more information, visit