Study says Some Couples Are Having Less Sex for Fear They Will be Disappointed Because Internet Porn, Movies, and ‘Fifty Shades’ are Putting Couples Under Pressure

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If you’re looking to spice up your sex life, these days you are rather spoiled for choice.

But it seems the avalanche of information available in magazines, movies, books and the internet is turning out to be a turn off.

Couples are now so ‘bombarded’ with messages about how sex ‘ought to be’ that they feel under pressure and avoid it altogether.

Many find the steamy antics in Fifty Shades of Grey more intimidating than inspiring, a survey for Relate, the relationship charity, found.

In the study of 6,000 British adults by YouGov, just 45 per cent said they were ‘fairly satisfied’ or ‘very satisfied’ with their sex life, while 51 per cent said they had not had sex in the past month. The best-selling Fifty Shades novels may have brought erotica into the mainstream but many men and women have been left feeling inadequate and failing to notice what is actually good about their sex lives.

Relate, which provided more than 20,000 sessions of sex therapy in 2013/14, said couples often say they want to bring the spontaneity back to their love lives.

But its counsellors point out that sex is rarely truly spontaneous and busy people sometimes have to plan for intimacy.

‘It’s sad that so few people are sexually satisfied and put pressure on themselves to perform,’ said Cate Campbell, a psychosexual therapist and Relate Institute lecturer.

‘Noticing what is going well, rather than dwelling on problems, is quite difficult when we’re all bombarded with messages about how sex “ought” to be.

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SOURCE: TANIA STEERE 
Daily Mail

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