Are you and your spouse wanting to kick off the new year right? If so, don’t stop with that midnight kiss. This January, join hearts and hands and determine to start – and finish – this new year as a united team. Here are three ways you can do this.
1. Make Peace with Last Year
A few months into this past year, my husband Ted’s normally high, but manageable blood pressure sky-rocketed into dangerous levels. His doctor struggled for most of the year on how to bring it down. Ted’s meds were increased and he underwent a $1,100 stress test that insurance refused to cover. During this time, one of our daughters started breaking out in an inexplicable rash that resulted in multiple trips to the allergist and I had to have several moles removed, one of which came back as slightly abnormal. It was stressful to say the least. Both on us individually and on our relationship.
Can you relate? Maybe the past year was rough on your marriage as a result of financial issues, health challenges, or relational struggles. While it’s likely you’ll have to again face some of these issues in the coming year, determine to make peace with last year’s events. What I mean by that is this: Decide together to see these challenges not just as annoyances, but as opportunities for growth, both individually and as a couple. What’s one way you can do this?
Sit down together and reflect. Talk about how the struggles you faced wore on you, and also how they made you stronger. Consider times when you let them divide you rather than unite you and discuss how you could do better next time. Resolve that in the coming year, you’ll try to face difficulties with an “us vs. the problem” attitude instead of a “me vs. you” mentality.