Of course you don’t want your marriage to fail, do you? You want it to last for life.
But if too many of the things listed below are too often a part of your life, then you may be on a dangerous road in your relationship.
1. You work more on your wedding than on your marriage. You spend hundreds of hours planning and preparing for your wedding—the venue, the dress, the guest list, the bridesmaids, the groomsmen, the ceremony, the vows—but choose not to spend time planning and preparing on growing your marriage.
2. You believe that marriage is a contract. Even though you don’t say it, you really believe that marriage is a transaction between two people, a contract and not a covenant. You have the mindset that most things in your relationship are negotiated—”If you do this, then and only then I will do that.” You think that marriage is a 50/50 partnership rather than a 100/100 give-it-all-you’ve-got relationship.
3. You think that your spouse’s job is to make you happy. In my “8 Mistakes I’ve Made in Marriage” blog post, I shared how I used to think that Susan’s duty as my wife was to make me happy. I expected Susan to lift me up when I was down, to help me upon command and to meet my physical needs when called upon, just to name a few. In reality, here’s what you should expect in your marriage: “8 Expectations for a Great Marriage.”
4. You are not trustworthy. You cannot be trusted by your spouse when you don’t speak the truth at all times, you keep secrets or you don’t do what you say you’ll do.
5. You always put your kids first. You pour all of your time, energy, attention and affection into your children. You give them your freshest and best and always serve your spouse leftovers.
6. You give in to temptation. You talk about your personal pressures and problems with another person besides your spouse. You feel like the other person empathizes and understands you better. Instead of running from this temptation, you run toward it and end up in an intimate emotional or physical relationship.
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SOURCE: Charisma News
Mark Merrill, Family First