Dear Mr. President:
This morning, you gave a speech in Rhode Island that was centered on women’s equality. You addressed the important issues of equal pay for equal work, paid maternity and family leave, and the high cost of daycare.
But you also made a statement that is very concerning to stay-at-home moms around the nation. In fact, your statement makes us wonder if you consider us as equal and contributing members of society. We’ve always been a substantial part of society, and we’re becoming even more so. From 1999 to 2012, the share of stay-at-home moms grew by 6 percent , after a nearly three-decade decline in our numbers. In 2012, there were 10.4 million of us around the nation.
“And sometimes, someone, usually mom, leaves the workplace to stay home with the kids, which then leaves her earning a lower wage for the rest of her life as a result. And that’s not a choice we want Americans to make.”
I hope you misspoke, but let me tell you how this comes across to stay-at-home moms. You’re telling us that the money we earn is more important than our kids. You’re telling us that leaving the workplace to stay home isn’t a choice American moms should be making.
Well, first off, we care about the choices our husbands and kids want us to make; about the choices we ourselves want to make – not the choices you claim we should be making. I can guarantee you that, when given the choice, kids would choose their moms over money.
And, as a stay-at-home mom myself, who is also an attorney, let me tell you that I want to choose my kids over my career. I honestly don’t care if missing two decades in the work force means that I’ll never make as much as a male attorney over the course of my lifetime.
My kids – people – are much, much more important than my money – mere possessions. And my choice is just as valid and just as equal as the choices of the single mom who needs to find a quality daycare and a high performing school to put her children in.
I hope you’ll hear what stay-at-home moms have to say for themselves. I hope you’ll ask them why they made their choices and what they believe is most valuable in family life – plenty of money or the time spent between parents and children. I hope you’ll also hear what the grown children of stay-at-home moms have to say.
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SOURCE: The Christian Post
Kristi Burton Brown