We have all experienced anger at some point in our lives, and it can be a real problem. Though it starts as a harmless feeling, it can quickly grow into something dangerous that’s hard to control. But with God’s help, we can learn how to deal with our feelings and walk in His peace.
Early on in my relationship with God, I spent a lot of time being led by my feelings. If somebody made me mad, then I was mad; if I felt like telling somebody off, I told the person off; and if I felt like talking about someone, I did just that. But the more I grew in Christ and came to understand His Word, the more I realized how dangerous it is to let my feelings dictate my actions. The truth is, our feelings are extremely fickle, and they can’t be trusted.
I remember one morning about 25 years ago I was going to go preach at a ladies meeting at my church in St. Louis, and Dave and I had gotten into an argument. I was really mad…and I felt guilty because I was mad. Then God showed me something that was very life-changing to me. Somehow I ended up in Ephesians 4:26-27, and I saw the verses in a different way than I ever had before. This scripture says:
“When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down. Leave no [such] room or foothold for the devil [give no opportunity to him].” (AMP)
The verse doesn’t say, “Don’t get angry” or “If you ever get angry.” It says, “When [you are] angry.” We’re all going to be angry at times, but it’s not feeling angry that’s a problem. The problem comes when we act on those feelings. At times, I’ve really wished some of my feelings would go away, but usually they don’t. I’ve learned that God is not necessarily going to change them, but He is going to change me so I can be stronger than they are. We need to be in touch with our feelings and take responsibility for them, but we can’t allow them to control us.
Some people have been upset for so long that they don’t even realize they’re angry anymore. For many years, I was angry about being abused by my father when I was a child, yet I wasn’t really even conscious of the fact that I was mad about it. I was angry and harsh and hard, and I was trying to be a Christian that way. I loved God, but I hadn’t gotten serious enough with Him to say, “I want to do things Your way and I need Your help.”
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SOURCE: The Christian Post