Loving from a Distance When It Seems Impossible to Forgive

Impossible to Forgive

When you have been deeply hurt or betrayed by someone—perhaps by a husband who is repeatedly unfaithful or a relative who is abusive—restoring that relationship can be complicated. While the Bible is clear that we are always to forgive people who harm us, forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean that we go back to relating as if nothing ever happened. A severe offense or a pattern of abusive behavior breaks trust, and a relationship cannot be close unless trust is rebuilt.

The Bible gives a practical example of a godly man in an abusive relationship who had a forgiving heart, but he also kept his distance and set healthy boundaries. I’m referring to David and King Saul.

King Saul was not in his right mind. His mind was so twisted by jealousy and rage toward David that he was determined to kill him. While Saul and his men hunted down David, David hid, calling on the Lord for protection. In fact, many of the most beautiful psalms in the Bible were written as David hid from Saul.

There were a few times when the Lord allowed David to be in a position in which he could get rid of Saul once and for all. David’s friends encouraged him to kill Saul, which many would have said he was justified in doing. But David had a sensitive heart toward the Lord and refused to harm Saul. Instead, he extended mercy and showed humility.

David had every reason to seek revenge, but instead he trusted God to carry out judgment against his enemy. He said, “May the LORD judge between us. Perhaps the LORD will punish you for what you are trying to do to me, but I will never harm you” (1 Samuel 24:12).

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SOURCE: TodaysChristianWoman.com & Christianity Today
Dr. Juli Slattery

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