Every week millions tune in to watch A & E’ s hit reality series, Duck Dynasty. While the men, and their beards get most of the attention, Ms. Kay, the matriarch of the family, helps keep everyone grounded. I had a chance to sit down and talk with Ms. Kay who told me about growing up in Ida, Louisiana, her marriage to Phil and her role in the early days of the Duck Commander dynasty!!
Ms. Kay remembers, “I know one thing, I would be rolling pie dough and answer Duck Commander and I have a little pad with a pencil writing things down. My kids would come in from school and sit on the floor in front of the TV and line up duck call boxes and put the stickers on the duck call and then put them in the boxes.”
Clip from Duck Dynasty Show, Kay says, ‘Something smell good.’ Phil says, ‘That would make a hound dog hug a kitty cat on a frosty morning.’”
Reporter Michelle Wilson asks, “You are on one of the highest rated reality TV series. Your popularity is growing. Why do you think that is happening?”
Ms. Kay responds, “God is blessing us maybe it’s because He knows we are going to still talk about Him.”
Michelle comments, “Tell me about your life growing up. You started from some humble beginnings.”
Ms. Kay says, “I did. Uh it was a little bit town of about 300 people out of Louisiana nobody’s ever heard of it. Because when you go through there’s one red light. We’re so proud of that light. My grandmother’s house was just a place of comfort. I mean, I remember going in there and the kitchen always had pots cooking with the lids were always bump, bump, bump, bump, bubbling, you know?”
Michelle asks, “But she also said something very profound that you would carry with you for the rest of your life.”
Ms. Kay responds, “She said, ‘one woman and one man for one life.’ And she said, ‘divorce is not an option.’”
Phil and Kay met in high school. Phil was a quarterback, played baseball and loved hunting. Kay was a cheerleader.
Ms. Kay, recalls, “It was, for me, love at first sight. I don’t know if Phil would say that or not. And I did see him and I thought, ‘um-hum, I like the way that looks.’
He worked in the oil field. He was a roughneck. And his daddy was the driller.”
Kay and Phil married. After Allen was born Phil wasn’t quite ready for the responsibility of being a father. Phil became a teacher. He also began drinking and running wild and he had a violent temper.
Ms. Kay says, “I don’t want anybody to stay through an abusive thing. And I had some abuse there and so that was one thing.”
Michelle asks, “Can you talk about the abuse?”
Ms. Kay responds, “It was only when he was drunk. The words were the worst. But I’m not saying that he ever didn’t do anything physical, because there was a time when he drank some real moonshine. And he did do some physical abuse that time when he drank that.”
Michelle asks, “Why didn’t you just leave? At this point you had gone through so much.”
Ms. Kay responds, “I guess I was a loyal person. When I made the vow to God for better, for worse, through sickness and death, till death do you part. I’m convinced if I hadn’t stayed by his side he would be dead.”
The couple eventually had two more sons. Phil left teaching and started managing a bar. He continued drinking and seeing other women. Then one night Phil came home drunk and accused Kay of cheating on him. For Kay, the abuse became unbearable.
Ms. Kay remembers, “I completely lost hope. And uh that night, as I was crying in that bathroom in that trailer, I really thought about ‘I just want to go to sleep and not wake up.” And I actually looked at the medicine cabinet and thinking, “If I had something I could just take to go to sleep and not wake up.’ And then the next thing that happens is I heard those little slippers coming and I could hear them sliding on the floor and it was Alan, and it was Jason and then Willie Jess. Alan said, ‘mom, mom, don’t cry anymore.’ He said, ‘God’s going to take care of us.’ And it was like all of a sudden I thought, those three little souls, and that’s what they were, what would happen? If something happened to me, what would happen to them? I would leave them with a drunk? You know? I mean, it was like a light, you turned on the light.
I just said, ‘God, help me. Just help me.’”
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SOURCE: The 700 Club